date: Tue, 15 Sep 1998 04:00:00 GMT
subject: Re: A hello, and My past Friday night (3 strike outs)
>Sounds hard to me. So say you’re in a club, and you look around, and catch a glimpse of a girl looking at you, but looking away immediately. This may happen several times, what do you do ? You can’t wave, nod or say hi, when she’s not looking. And tapping on the shoulder is generally considered intrusive, I’ve noticed.
SOLUTION: smile. When she looks for The very FIRST time, smile BIG and say “Hi.” THAT’s the 3 second rule. You will get used to saying hi and smiling to EVERY beautiful girl everywhere you go. No you already have come off as playful and pleasant. If you miss this first opportunity to do this, you risk STALING out the girl. That is what you keep getting yourself into. You STALE the entry so you feel awkward to approach. Why? Because you know she knows you have sex on your brain. You have no other reason to approach her. Thats STALE. Now if you smiled and said hello in the first 3 seconds of seeing her, then you can immediately start chatting. Its natural this way.