What makes the HB blurt out ‘I have a BF’

author:          “Tyler Durden
date:             Fri, 04 July 2003 13:23 GMT
website:       www.fastseduction.com old forum
Context: this was a really old post, keep in mind sometimes the girl indeed has a loving BF. Other times, if you are getting this excuse a lot, you’re doing something to trigger it. TD Explains:

The word ‘Slut’ is a weapon that women use against other women

Women have a powerful interruption mechanism known as anti-slut defense, or ASD. Not only does she prefer to avoid having others perceive her as a slut, which would pose dire consequences to her social status, but also she wants to avoid the discomfort of feeling like a slut. Thus she has the ASD interrupt mechanism to help her avoid this fate.

ASD is what makes a girl blurt out ‘I have a boyfriend’ (whether she actually does or not) — because you escalated faster than she was comfortable with.

Time in the field will eventually improve your calibration to the point where you can escalate without activating her ASD. Chapter 6 describes how to escalate smoothly through the use of false disqualifiers.

PS: If She mentioned the BF in the first place because your interest was telegraphed too much. If you do things right, you won’t hear about the BF until afterwards. When I hear about the BF, I know I just did something wrong. In fact, she probably doesn’t even have a BF.