What ANNOYS Women, and What ATTRACTS Them

David DeAngelo writes:

If you listen to women talk about men, you’ll often hear them use the word “ANNOYING” to describe certain men and certain things that some men DO.

Now, as you can probably guess, it’s not usually a good thing when a woman uses this particular word to describe a guy…

And, as you can ALSO probably guess, when a woman uses this particular word, it’s not usually about guys who she is ATTRACTED to (although this isn’t always true).

Now, It’s taken me a few years of paying attention to really get a handle on what women are talking about when they say “He’s annoying” or “It’s so annoying when he does that”.

And guess what I realized was at the ROOT of women finding a guy or his behavior annoying?




Here are some of the things that many women consider to be “annoying”:

–    Calling her too often

–    Telling her that you have “feelings” for her too early

–    Giving away your power to her and making her the boss

–    Always asking a woman what she wants instead of leading

–    Acting submissive and weak

–    Accepting her demands, bossy-ness, and manipulative requests

–    Being her doormat and putting your own needs aside

“WHAT?” you say.

“HOW COULD THIS BE?”… you might be thinking.

How is it possible that demonstrating your affection for a woman by calling her, telling her how you feel, letting her make the decisions, and putting her first could be considered ANNOYING, of all things?

Well guess what? IT IS.

Women, and ESPECIALLY the most ATTRACTIVE and desirable women usually consider the above things to be VERY annoying.

Of course, the reason for this is because no matter how good these kinds of behaviors seem on the surface, there’s only one conclusion that can be drawn from them:



Now, do I really, really, REALLY mean that women are NEVER, EVER attracted to Wu ssi e s?

I mean, isn’t that an over-generalization? Nothing is always true, right?

Well, this one IS.

Actually, what I MEAN is…

“As far as generalizations go, this particular one is as close to being true all the time as they get.”

And just in case I haven’t said this enough, let me say it one more time… just to make sure it’s clear:


So, now you understand why all of the “nice” things that you’ve done for women seem to always result in the woman pulling away.

It’s because she finds your nice-guy “Wuss” behaviors to be ANNOYING.


To further confuse things, you’ll often hear a woman say something to the effect of…

“I want a STRONG guy who is also SENSITIVE…” …or…

“He needs to have his own life, his own interests, and his own friends, but also totally focused on me…”

I see things like this in women’s personal ads all the time. I’m sure you’ve seen things like this yourself.

Women often talk about wanting a combination of things in a man that just don’t seem to fit…

So what’s going on here?

Are women crazy? (Yes.)

But seriously, what are they talking about?

How is it that women seem to always talk about wanting men who have these qualities that don’t fit together?

I know that I personally used to hear this stuff and then say to myself “OK, well I’ve got the sensitive part covered so I guess I need to start acting a little bit stronger”.

I thought that maybe this came down to getting my lazy ass to the gym and working out. You know, to become “stronger”.


No, I’m serious.

Well, here’s the BIG REALIZATION that I had… I’ve now realized that I had it all wrong.

Instead of thinking to myself that I was a nice, sensitive guy that needed to become a little stronger, what I really needed was to become a strong guy who could also act sensitive on occasion.

The difference seems almost like word-play, but it’s not. Not at all.

You see, when a woman says that she wants a “strong guy who’s also sensitive”, that’s what she MEANS.

She wants a guy who’s STRONG. The sensitive part is far more “optional” than the STRONG part.

This is why women often date jerks and guys who are emotionally unavailable, and don’t date us “nice guys” who would do anything for them.


Women do not sit down and make a list of the qualities that a particular guy has, then think it over for a few days, then DECIDE whether or not to FEEL ATTRACTION.


It happens in an INSTANT, and it happens for all kinds of “illogical” reasons… reasons that even the woman who is feeling it can’t usually describe.

So what’s the answer here?

The answer here is to realize that many of the things you do when you’re around women that you feel attracted to are considered ANNOYING by those women.

You must understand that you sometimes have to do things that SEEM to be “inconsiderate” in order to give a woman what she REALLY wants (which is a man who is in control of himself, the situation, and often her).

Raise your right hand, and repeat after me… “I will stop being a Wussy around women.” “I will stop being a Wussy around women.” “I will stop being a Wussy around women.”

Stop doing things that say “I’m a Wussy”, because those are the very things that women find ANNOYING.

And START doing the things that you’re learning here.

Lean back. Act Cocky & Funny around women. Bust on them and give them a hard time. And LEAD the way, don’t follow.

NOW, if you REALLY want to take a trip “behind the scenes” and hear me describe EXACTLY how to develop into the kind of man that women find “naturally attractive” and EXACTLY what to do, how to do it, and when to do it in order to meet and date the kinds of women that most men will only dream about, then I recommend you get a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Series.

This is the program that I guarantee will change the entire way you see the women and dating… and it will INSTANTLY help you meet more women and get more dates.

The program is jam-packed with hundreds and hundreds of the best step-by-step techniques for overcoming your fear and shyness, approaching women, getting emails and numbers, getting dates, and taking things to a “physical” level smoothly.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

It’s funny, because I was watching the Soprano’s last week when Medow’s boyfriend proposed to her, and that dude is such a fuckin’ wussy. The entire time the two of them were arguing and he kept letting her make the decisions, you could honestly see in her face that she just wanted him to be a man and make up his mind for himself instead of being such a fucking pussy.

I used to do this a lot myself. Defer the decision to the girl I was with. Let her take the strong lead. But honestly, that’s like, the WORST possible thing anyone could do with a woman. I think part of being a man is leading others, even if you’re not confident that you’re decision is the right one, at least you’re taking that responsibility, and other people respond to that.