author: “Vincent Chase”
date: Tue, 3 April 2005 03:16:00 GMT
website: http://wwv.themysterymethod.com old forums
subject: Vincent Chase On Body Language …There are only two types of gestures Stripped and Clustered, basically one is a gesture of openess and ambiguity the other is a closed with a resounding…
Context: The infamous “Vince Chase” of the PUA community writes about his experience with different body language situations. A must read if your body language needs work.
You’ve heard it before. It’s been thrown around, and you may or may not have picked up on it but the fact is that the key to understanding women and people in general lies in their body language. Subconciously we are sending each other signals of how we REALLY feel or what we are TRULY thinking. Not only should you learn what signals you are giving, but what signals to give and how to read the signal of others.
I don’t have the time, or room, to cover all the amazing subtleties of body language but I will cover some key points but they should be sufficient for our purposes.
There are only two types of gestures Stripped and Clustered, basically one is a gesture of openness and ambiguity the other is a closed with a resounding “Don’t touch me there!” Something you must understand, though, is that these gestures may not be a reflection of someone’s opinion of you. For instance your best bud may be acting like a dick and pushing a lot of closed gestures but it not you he’s mad at he just got schooled on the B-Ball court. The lesson for males and females? Just cause they are heavily clustered, doesn’t mean they’re not interested, chances are they just had a bad day.
“All in” When someone is truly interested in what you are saying or just plain interested in you their whole body will be turned towards you, face’s lock and bodies parallel.
“Comfort” When someone is comfortable around you look for tell tale signs. An open body, uncrossed legs, exposed inner arms and a lean of posture. The BIGGEST sign, the absolute largest sign of comfort is touching. I’m not talking about a handshake or a hug after a date, I mean unnecessary, numerous and possibly erotic touching. Rather than tell you you have ketchup on your arm she/he wipes it off, I CANNOT STRESS HOW BIG FACTOR THIS IS!
“Instant Comedian” When she starts to giggle or smile at every dumb crack you make, don’t book stage time. Chances are she’s just interested in you and subconsciously or purposefully trying to make you feel more comfortable. And never use that “Yo ‘mama” joke again… ever.
“Eye Contact” During direct eye contact look for signs of euphoria such as playing with her hair, playing with something in her hands or tapping her feet. Don’t mistake these sign’s with nervousness. There are only two options she’s interested in you or scared of you. So don’t rush in. When she looks at you does she smile? Does she hold the gaze long, so long it becomes almost unbearable or orgasmic in itself? Does she flip her hair? Any and all of these signs indicate she is trying to attract your attention. Get up. Walk to her. Ask her if she would like to go for a walk. Take her hand in yours before she answers. Walk backwards to the door. Take a long stroll and talk… maybe more.
“Sarcasm and exasperation” If someone is avoiding direct eye contact, rolling their head, rolling their eye’s, pursing their lips, annoyingly tapping their feet, constantly checking their watch or looking for pre-occupation then say ‘nice meeting you’ and walk away if she/he pursues you great, if not she/he was not interested or greatly annoyed by your presence.
“Lean Back” Contrary to what you may have heard or what you believe when someone “leans back” in a non-musical environment it is not a goo thing. When someone leans towards you they express interest and openness, leaning back is a way of cutting themselves off from you, or what you are saying at that particular moment. The more prolonged they stay back, the worse the situation is (it ranges from the playful push from the table in disagreement to the cross bones style when she leans back crosses her legs, arms and/or any chance you had)
“Crossbones” A term used by players and tricks to describe people who are uptight or very closed or “just won’t give it up.” In body language it’s when someone crosses their legs or arms to show discomfort, nervousness and/or disinterest. Try to make them feel more comfortable. But if it fails you didn’t put on enough of a show, they’re not interested.
To give the impression of confidence and openness keep an open stance, spread your legs (No reason to go spread eagle or pull a porn-star) and sit up straight.
Lean into someone when they are talking. Show genuine interest turn your body towards them and listen and always maintain eye-contact even if not in conversation and even if across the room.
Don’t cross your arms or legs, it gives the impression of insecurity and discomfort. Try placing your heads behind your head, or spread wide across a table.
Make constant intimate touch with someone you are interested in.
Keep smiling. Feel free to get “the butterflies” when you see someone but refrain from getting fidgety. It makes you look more nervous than anything else.