Context: Most guys don’t understand “reactiveness” and Bish explains his philosophy here.
The idea of Unreactive game has changed my results from someone who gets girls but fairly inconsistently and its all a bit hit and miss to someone who has almost unlimited choice with women where ever I go.”
So the basic idea is to understand what your core values are, not to try and make them ‘inline’ with what you think might be attractive to a girl, but because it is an expression of who you are? Your own core personality. Anytime you get drawn into a girl purely because she is hot, and you wind up doing something for her you wouldn’t do for other people in general, you are buying into her frame, and on some level being drawn into the same superficial bullshit that is stopping you score girls like that. This is something that can be seen consistently all over the world, anywhere you go.
I speak to many guys who have been going out for awhile and they struggle with the idea of unreactive game because they are so tied into there reaction creating game plan. The whole idea of offering value and just putting yourself out there is too daunting, because they are trying to hold on to this sense of having ‘perfect game’, or being able to get every girl they open etc.
This is a super weak idea. Why? Say you go out 4 nights a week. You open 10 groups of women up. Say you could get 8 phone numbers. Then you have 32 girls to call in one week. You call up all 32, and set up day 2’s for every night of the next week. Make it so your inviting 3 girls per date, even then you still can’t possible see all the girls you opened. It is not physically possible to have sex with all of these women, so why care if they liked you or not?
So you can’t have sex with all of these women, and the idea of wanting to implies you don’t have your own standards and values as you are willing to try and sleep with any girl you open, which obviously makes you less attractive in the first place. So, a whole bunch of guys are caught in this cycle of opening plenty of sets, getting plenty of numbers, getting a bunch of flakes and are no closer to scoring the types or quality of women they want.
The funniest thing is a friend of mine said to me a little while back ‘the idea of unreactive game sounds great, but the problem is I don’t feel I can express myself fully’. My response was ‘WTF, when you go ask girls about 3 gay cats, jealous girlfriends, blonde hair etc you feel you are fully expressing yourself’. The penny dropped faster than the titanic. Before he knew it he agreed with me, and actually saw how weak it was that he had so much power invested in his material. Last week he got laid for the first time in ages with ‘the hottest girl he ever fucked’.
No-one ever said being unreactive implied being inexpressive. It’s actually a license to fully express yourself. Put your personality on the line, build core confidence so you know you have options with women, and will also carry you through the rest of your life too.
I’ll give you a quick note I keep for myself, and refer to if I feel myself slipping into old habits.
Bish’s Cheatsheet for the Year Ahead
1) Offer Value 2) Put your real personality on the Line 3) Don’t give a fuck what anyone thinks of you 4) Don’t take ownership of other peoples reactions to you
Simply following this has skyrocketed my success with women