The point of the 3 second rule

Context: Mystery explains the 3 second rule in detail

The point of the 3 second rule is to encourage you to approach women fast enough to keep your internal voice from talking you out of it and and to avoid hesitation. You do not want a woman to see you hesitate. The longer you hesitate, the more insecure and sappy you appear. Also, hesitation creates an added sense of nervousness to your mental state and gives her time to size you up and possibly decide not to talk to you – a personality trait you do not want to portray when approaching women.

No Short Cut: Some will get close to a woman, while doing something else, perhaps, with the illusion that she will say “hi” or that somehow, by being close to her, he will increase the chances of talking together with her. Maybe so, however, most times this fails. Why does this fail? Doing that, also deminishes your manhood. She realises you want to talk to her, yet you adapt a childish, jelly-back way of getting close. She starts to think, “this guy is not a man, hes a jelly-back!” Even if you get to talk to her, somehow, your chances of penetrating her is next to nill.

Just do it. Go! Act in 3 second seconds as the default rule, even if you have no idea how you will continue. If you don’t have an opener or opening line in mind by the time you’re in front of her, at least just say “Hi”. If you act in 3 second seconds, she will notice it, no matter where she just came in from’ or where you came from’ or even how you passed by each other. She will see the spontaneity and decisiveness in your approach and it can only work in your favor. If you wait, hesitate, then decide to approach, you put yourself in a weaker state. Hesitating will give your self-doubt a chance to create imaginary of bad outcomes and add undue insecurity to your approach.

Using this rule, you don’t need to wait for eye contact or for her to notice you or for an opportunity to present itself. You simply see something you like and you go right up to it. You are also doing yourself a favor by following the 3 second rule. In three seconds, you have no time to become nervous, self-conscious, sweaty, shaky – all the obvious signs of a weak jelly-back, lacking confidence, quality, power, or assertiveness. Being a weakling around women is a big turnoff to beautiful girls. Even if you start sweating, or getting shaky or stutter while talking to the woman after following the 3 second rule, you weren’t that way when you initiated contact! The first impression is what counts. Guys! If that first impression of you is of a confident and spontaneous man, her feelings for you will be upbeat and positive, which greatly minimizes the chance of you trembling while talking with her. It sets the pace and helps keep your inner voice at bay, allowing you the chance to keep your confidence up.

The 3 second rule, though, is not absolute – you may simply not notice her when she enters your environment, or maybe you’ll be tied up with something that might in some way stop you from approaching her (real obstacles, not your imagined ones). The 3 seconds start counting from the moment you have spotted her and is free to approach. When those two conditions are met, you really don’t have the time to think deep thoughts, or try and figure out whether or not she noticed that you didn’t approach her because you were either too preoccupied, restrained, or simply oblivious – the clock is always ticking. Keep it moving!

There is a reason it’s a RULE and not just a recommendation. In just about any situation, you are better off approaching quickly and without hesitation. Successful people make quick decisions and change them rarely. After seeing the chick, just do it! Dont rather wait around to think about the “perfect” opener or hesitating because of self-doubt. Most guys just stand/sit around, drooling @ the chick they want to apporach rather than just going up and doing the approach. While they stand/sit there, the voice in their head goes through every possible rejection scenario and scares the hell out of them. They cause themselves to get nervous and scared and if they finally do get the nerve to do the approach, they are walking up to her as a nervous wreck. In the mean time the chick had time to size him up and to consider him a wimp and a jelly-back to be discarded. The longer you wait, the more time gets created for cockblock scenarios to present themselves…. Go get em tiger, and rememerr, get em in 3.

By Mystery


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