Originally posted by Swinggcat on the old forums
The other day I was talking to a buddy of mine, a real rock star at attracting women, about, of all things, Bill Gates. We were discussing how Gates’ financial problems are vastly different from the average person. Bill spends his days fretting over ways to either make more money or sustain the money he has, while most people concern themselves with making money in the first place. The man lives in a completely different reality from most of us. As we were chatting about Mr. Microsoft, something dawned on us…
When it comes to succeeding with women, we realized, we live in a very different reality from most men. In our reality, generating attraction in women is as easy as taking a crap – little effort, yet feels great! The skills and tools for generating attraction are so ingrained in us that when interacting with gorgeous women, there’s not even an iota of hemming and hawing over how to attract them. Our focus, instead, is on: using the attraction we already know we can generate in them to get our intended outcome. If there’s a woman we’re interested in, for example, we don’t stand there stiff and stupefied, like a deer caught in headlights, wondering: “How in the world are we going to attract her?” We know, if we just chat with her for a few minutes, it’s inevitable that she’ll feel attraction toward us. That’s why our focus is entirely on, even if we haven’t yet said a word to her, using the attraction we already know we can generate in her to get our intended outcome.
But this isn’t the reality of most men. “What to do in the wake of a woman feeling attraction toward you?” is a thought never crossing the minds of many a man – and rightfully so…because most can’t even generate attraction inside women in the first place.
A few nights ago, for example, I was at a little bar down the street from my house. My friend and I watched a forty-something year-old distinguished looking business man play the big passive bottom to the verbal gang bang of two twenty-one year old looking, sponge-brained rhymes-with-witches. The poor bastard attempted to attract these women the only ways he knew how: buying them drinks, giving them lots of compliments, and, worst of all, asking them if they thought his clothes are cool. Funny enough, the more he did these things, the crueler the girls acted toward him. This man was a walking, talking attraction death sentence.
Can you relate? Have you ever felt, every attempt to attract a woman was actually turning her off? Or have you experienced the frustration of trying to figure out why a woman was more attracted to your friend than you? Or maybe you’ve brooded: Attracting women is as difficult as a blind man trying to find a bobby pin on an open football field. I dunno?
Each scenario represents the reality of not knowing how to attract women. A reality I personally overstayed my welcome. I, however, have moved far away from this reality and now reside in a place where attracting women is cake.
I’m going to share something with you only known, for the most part, by people living in a reality where attracting women is as easy as turning on a light switch. This is something I don’t think I’ve ever talked about in a newsletter…and might never again. If you’ve read my book, you’ll know what this is. If you’ve gone out and experimented with it, there’s a good chance you understand the power behind it.
Before I get into this I’m going to review some attraction basics.
Realize this: Most women march through life to the rhythms of some drum most men will never hear. My job is to get you to hear those rhythms, so, you can start experiencing massive success with women. Attraction is neither how a woman judges you nor what she prefers. Women prefer men who are tall and dark and lumbered with boa constrictor sized wieners. Think of the guys featured in Calvin Klein, Guess, and Abercrombie catalogues. That’s what women prefer! This probably isn’t you, and certainly isn’t me. But that’s okay…because…the men women prefer and the men they feel attraction for are as similar as apples are to oranges. Attraction has very little to with preference. Attraction, instead, is the emotion of a woman wanting and reaching and chasing for more of a man.
This is why you hear many a woman talking about her experiences of feeling attraction toward men whom she finds ugly or as not filling the quota for what she considers to be her type. When you’ve mastered the mechanisms behind generating attraction, what a woman physically thinks of you will be the least of your concerns.
One of the most effective ways I’ve found for generating massive amounts of attraction in women, emotionally compelling them to want and reach and chase for more of you, is what I call “Tension Loops.” The best part of using Tension Loops is that they generate heaps of attraction in women…regardless of your current looks, social status, or bank account.
A Tension Loop is when you do something to create unresolved emotional tension inside a woman, increase it, release it by bringing closure to it, and then spark it all over again. This will keep her feeling the emotion of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.
Soap opera writers use Tension Loops to keep women enraptured in their fictitious dramas for months – sometimes years! The structure is always the same. The soap starts off with some form of conflict or drama, sparking unresolved emotional tension. Emotional tension increases up until the point of the climax. The tension, then, is released by bringing some resolution to the conflict or drama. And, finally, the show ends by sparking the tension all over again, compelling women to tune in for next week’s show.
Mastering the Tension Loop will give you the kind of power over women that, at first, might scare you. But if you’re thinking that this is what I wanted to share with you, you’re wrong.
So keep reading…
In a minute, you’re going to learn a special type of Tension Loop I call “Push/Pull.” If you aren’t comfortable with the idea of having the power to generate attraction inside the women you desire, regardless of what they think of you, you might want to stop reading now!
What I’m about to reveal is Jedi mind *shit*. We’re talking Yoda power! And you don’t have to become Darth Vader to reap the benefits of Push/Pull. Every guy I’ve come into contact with, who is good with women, uses some form of Push/Pull.
Push/Pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you…and, then, emotionally pull her back in. Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull. To get a sense of what I’m getting at, think, for example, of your favorite junk food. What if you went on a strict diet for several weeks, depriving yourself of giving in to your urge to eat your favorite food? What would it be like to finally give in to your urge and indulge? I’m willing to bet it would be more intense than if you hadn’t gone on your strict diet, yes?
Many women are natural Push/Pull artists. Over the years I’ve heard dozens of stories from hapless men about women using Push/Pull to pick them up by the scruff of their proverbial neck, slamming their bodies with back-and-forth and side-to-side motions into the ground. My all time favorite story is the one about the gorgeous girl sleeping with a guy and then, after sex, putting his ego on steroids by telling him, “You’re the best lover I’ve ever had.” Things, then, alas, take a self-esteem crushing turn for the worse when she undermines her praise with: “Actually, you’re the fourth best lover I’ve ever had.” The poor bastard is crushed and he is, as if he were a little worker bee, struggling to move up to the number three slot.
We can use these psychological mechanisms without being an A-hole or a Jerk. The key is to make it playful and funny. Your intention should never be to hurt a woman. Your goal is to only mess with her a bit. Do this and women will find you charming and attractive.