Guest post by David BlackYou’ve most likely experienced some examples of jargon out there in the ‘how to get a girl‘ realm. Sometimes it can seem that some dudes try to come up with the most amazing sounding terms just for the hell of it. Don’t get me wrong, jargon has it’s place, but sometimes they fly in the face of simple, understandable principles, and just compound confusion. This is one of my pet peeves.Let’s have a look at what I think are the top 7 worst culprits:
This term is totally ridiculous to say or write which is why it’s on the list. However, the concept can be very useful. You are trying to get a girl to initiate IOI’s that give you a clear indication that a girl likes you. If you get an AI (Approach Invitaion) then you know it’s on like Donkey Kong, because you know know she wants you to approach her and talk to her. So it can be useful but the term is just ridiculous. Sounds more like a Chinese takeaway dinner than a useful technique.
6. Hot Babe (HB) – Quick Definition: A beautiful woman, or any woman, rated on a scale of beauty from 1-10. Can also stand for “Hunny Bunny”.
The hot babe scale rubs me the wrong way sometimes. Guess what? Every guy has a different opinion of which girls are hot, and which are not. One guy might think blondes are the hottest women in town whereas others thinks Emo girls are where it’s at. Also it can be an ego thing, to brag about how hot the girls are you approached. Who really cares? This has no place when trying to meet women. I say leave your ego at the door and just go out and have a good time with women. If someone thinks the girl you are with is not that attractive then f*ck em. If you like the girl then that’s the most important thing. Also if a girl overheard you having a conversation saying “Whoa she was a HB9” then surly they will be kinda creeped out. Whereas saying, “She is really hot” is a lot more ‘normal’. Your choice.
When you go out you should be looking to have a good time first and foremost. Going out just to meet women is kinda weird on it’s own. Surely you would be better off going out to have an awesome time and whilst out approaching a few women. I believe that going out just to meet women puts a lot of un-wanted external pressure on you, which can make it even harder to talk to women.
This word makes me chuckle every time I hear it, so it does have some positive qualities.
4. 3 Minute rule – Quick Definition: The concept of avoiding sets that could be easily interrupted within the first 3 minutes.
What’s the problem with this term? Well, it gives guys another reason/excuse not to approach a girl they like. Imagine you are about to approach a group when you get a little doubt in your mind. It would be very easy for you to think back to this term and say, “If I do approach the group, it’s probably going to get interupted in the next 3 minutes or so. Probably best I don’t bother at all”. Not good…
As if ‘Average Frustrated Chump’ (AFC) was not enough. If the poor guy was not already in such a bad place because he thinks he is bad with women, then he sure would be after you label him a ‘Way below average frustrated chump’.
We need to be helping these guys, not finding new terms to make them feel even more inadequate about themselves.
Some people may just want to use the term to describe others in a negative way. The only reason you would ever need to do this is to make yourself feel better about your own shortcomings. If that’s the case, then you have issues which you need to work out instead of making yourself feel better at other peoples expense.
It defines something that is a complete waste of time and therefore it makes the term a complete waste of time. PUA Lingo’s own definition says it all: ‘Stop taking dick crack and let’s talk about something more productive.’
Firstly that’s a mouthful. Secondly, I hope it isn’t that secret because I actually want people to find this stuff so that I can help them :-). Why do we feel the need to have this ‘secret community’? We are trying to become more and more social so that are interactions with women improve. However being part of a secret community is actually taking us further away from being normal, attractive, funny and sociable. It makes us sound like a bunch of weird internet nerds out to trick women into bed.
Meeting women is normal and natural, not something that’s secretive and manipulative.
So there you have it, the seven worst culprits in crimes against understanding women and dating. Jargon has its place, and although I’m not a huge fan of using it, I realise it can be useful when you need to explain a specific situation or technique.
The thing is, if we all spent as much time just getting out there and talking to women as some guys seem to spend sat in front of a PC dreaming up jargon, we’d all be MPUAs ;-) (but that’s another story…).
Would love to hear what your pet hates are when it comes to jargon about how to get a girl. Post a comment below and let me know…