DJ Fuji gave me some very good advice because of my high flake rate with 9s and 10s. Lately I have been getting offers for sex from a) fat girls b) ugly girls but not with the models I’ve met (yet) or any of the really hot blonde girls. It is getting frustrating and is starting to effect my mental state.
Even though he’s not here in person, just describing my situation to him, he seemed to naturally understand some of my sticking points. I have 3 areas of improvement:
I lose a lot of girls on this one. Some tips for me were to talk about an event I am doing anyway, without inviting her. She will invite herself. A lot of guys will brag or talk about an event like he’s doing it just to invite her.
You can’t sell someone something until they are ready to be sold, so keep building comfort, and/or attraction via text. The best way to do this is actually via a phone call. Kezia Noble talks about how to do this in her Text and Phone Game ebook from a woman which I found VERY interesting.
This requires time. The way to do this during daygame is just to insta-date. Night game makes EC harder to do because of the environment. Unless you can spend some quality time with her or have massive social value flash game, most night game numbers are flakey unless you have solid game, or she knows you from somewhere, or you one night stand her.
There are ways to build EC with vulnerability and authenticity, however in general EC is harder to build on the first meet. Getting her just on the phone without asking her out helps.
Talk about the events you are doing, if something she likes clicks, she will give you interest. Then you can talk about doing that together. Ask her what she’s doing and what her schedule is like. The point of talking about your events is because you are actually planning them. Only invite a girl to an event AFTER she shows interest, otherwise, don’t. Be implicit.