Prior to becoming “Style” in the community, Neil Strauss was already a well known name in the writing and journalist community. Going by the pen name of “Chris Powles”, Style wrote for the The New Yrok Times and Rolling Stones and co-authored (as a ghost writer for celebrities): The Long Hard Road Out Of Hell with Marilyn Manson, The Dirt with Mötley Crüe, How to Make Love Like a Porn Star: A Cautionary Tale with Jenna Jameson, and Don’t Try This At Home with Dave Navarro.
In 2005, Neil Strauss, being an already successful writer with connections in the publishing industry, published his 2 years of experience in the seduction community in his memoir The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists.
This event marked a major turning point for the seduction community. The lid was blew open on the once secretive and elusive seduction community. Similarly, commercialization of PUA and dating projects started to proliferate the market as more and more people took interest into this art form.
- “One of the tragedies of modern life is that women as a whole do not hold a lot of power in society, despite all the advances made in the last century. Sexual choice, however, is one of the only areas where women are indisputably in control. It’s not until they’ve made a choice, and submitted to it, that the relationship is inverted—and the man is generally back in a position of power over her. Perhaps that is why women, to the frustration of men everywhere, are so cautious about saying yes.”
- “There are men in this world who hate women, who do not respect them, who call them bitches and cunts. These are not PUAs. PUAs do not hate women; they fear them. Simply by defining oneself as a PUA-a title earned solely by the responses of women-one becomes doomed to derive his entire self-esteem and identity from the attention of the opposite sex, not unlike a comedian’s relationship to audience members. If they don’t laugh, you’re not funny. So, as self-esteem defense mechanisms, some PUAs developed misogynist tendencies in the process of learning. Sarging could be hazardous to the soul.”
- “I had finally internalized the idea that women don’t always want relationships. In fact, once unleashed, a woman’s physical needs are often more ravenous than a man’s. It’s just that there are certain barriers and programming walls to be overcome in order for her to feel comfortable enough to surrender to them. I got good at the game because I understood that the goal of the PUA was simply not to trigger a woman’s shutdown or flight responses.”
- “If there was anything I’d learned, it’s that the man never chooses the woman. All he can do is give her an opportunity to choose him.”
“Some women like to make extremely sexual comments after meeting a man. It is a shit test. If the guy becomes uncomfortable, he fails; however, if he takes the bait and gets excited or says something sexual in response, he also fails. After watching the British television character Ali G, I discovered the solution: Just look her in the eye, nod approvingly, and, with a slight smile creeping across your face, say, ‘Respect,’ in a smart-ass tone.”
Style, Mystery, Papa
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