• Social Exchange Propensity

    by AlphaWolf & Co.

    Quick Definition: The overall likelihood and flow of energy within a particular venue that encourages strangers to get to know one another.


    Full Definition:

    Lately, I have noticed a subtle and influential energy in every venue. As PUAs, we follow the “vibe” and go towards the energy of the group that is most likely to give us interest and attention. Our environment has a significant effect on the mass behavior of people that walk through it every day.

    Social Exchange Propensity is the energy of the venue that supports interaction among strangers.

    For example, imagine the office cubicles – it supports isolation and focus on work instead of socializing. At comic-con or any other convention, it is likely that people interact a lot with each other. Regardless of the propensity level of a certain location, the PUA can still interact in a way to meet girls. However, his strategy for meeting them would have to be different depending on the venue.

    A ladder of Low to High Social Exchange Propensity would be:

    Low Social Exchange Propensity venues – these are venues that naturally influence users to avoid social talk and interaction. Usually people are tired, or there is pressure that propels the users to want to be alone.

    • Bathroom Stalls – no one wants to talk when taking a dump.
    • Office Cubicles – depending on the height of the cubicle walls and corporate culture, work can be very lonely. Office workers get around this, but the natural surroundings have a huge influence on a day to day, everlasting basis.
    • Airport Security – people are running late or anxious most of the time.
    • Military Camp – solidarity is encouraged and discipline is needed. Recruits still socialize and the bonds run deeper, however the facility itself is not conducive to socializing.

    Medium Social Exchange Propensity places and Day Venues

    • Library – you’re expected to be working, and silence is needed. Again, the contrast of the “need” to be quiet creates a dichotomy of adventure and fetishes in making out and kissing in the library shelves.
    • On campus cafeteria – kids can segregate themselves by groups, but this is still a chatty and social place.
    • Mall – people tend to stick to their own at malls. However, there are social exchanges among sales people and shoppers, and sometimes between shoppers on what to buy
    • Conventions, local markets, street fairs – high levels of social exchange happen here, and there are often many girls around to talk to.
    ucberkeley-campus

    College campuses are great venues for social interactions

    Night Venues

    • Hotel Bar – usually a lot of traveling folks who are lonely and a great place to chat up a girl.
    • Local Dive Bar – depends on the scene, sometimes there are many locals and if you are the foreigner, you have to establish yourself as a nice, new guy. If you come across as the creepy weird new guy, all is lost.
    • Frat / Sports Bars – lots of cuties here, but the guys are really big and conversation usually stalls. They are, however, rowdy and loud. If you fit into this category then you’ll do well here. However, usually, PUAs tend to be the more intellectual type.
    • Lush bar in San Francisco – The Matrix, “loungy” and tourist-filled meat market locations are IDEAL for PUAs. Not only is socially acceptable to speak to strangers, it is encouraged. Women understand this and often come encourage men to come up and conversed with them. Game is run here by many guys who know nothing about seduction, and therefore the PUAs have a significant leg up on the competition.

    Night Venues

    • Hotel Bar – usually a lot of traveling folks who are lonely and a great place to chat up a girl.
    • Local Dive Bar – depends on the scene, sometimes there are many locals and if you are the foreigner, you have to establish yourself as a nice, new guy. If you come across as the creepy weird new guy, all is lost.
    • Frat / Sports Bars – lots of cuties here, but the guys are really big and conversation usually stalls. They are, however, rowdy and loud. If you fit into this category then you’ll do well here. However, usually, PUAs tend to be the more intellectual type.
    • Lush bar in San Francisco – The Matrix, “loungy” and tourist-filled meat market locations are IDEAL for PUAs. Not only is socially acceptable to speak to strangers, it is encouraged. Women understand this and often come encourage men to come up and talk them up. Game is run here by many guys who know nothing about seduction, and therefore the PUAs have a significant leg up on the competition.

    Example of the guys hitting up Comic-Con (high social exchange propensity)

    Usage:

    Sabor Lounge has a high level of social exchange propensity on Tuesday nights, but tough crowds on Saturdays.

    Related Terms: Situational Confidence, Conditioning, Social Conditioning, Pick Up Artist, PUA, mPUA, Guru, The Game, Social Cues, Social Pressure, Social Hierarchy

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