Quick Definition: Preemptively talking about your apartment or a location that is conducive to sex, way before you try to bounce the girl there.
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For any type of “pull” game, or even if you are on a date, seeding the pull is a key component of good game. In any great story, the narrative usually foreshadows or mentions an event before it actually happens. For example, you talk about the True Blood episodes you have been watching in your apartment, or playing Jenga, or the new flatscreen TV that plays awesome movies. You talk about these innocently in the early part of the date, so that later on, there is a legit excuse to bring her to see True Blood, play Jenga, or do whatever it is you suggested.
Seeding the pull accomplishes several things:
- It engages the girl to something you both may have in common (Oh, I live in that part of town too)
- It allows her to not feel like a slut because you both agreed to checkout your DVD collection earlier
- It gives you a legitimate way to lead her
- It makes her feel more comfortable and the pull less “out of the blue” and more pre-planned
- Follows the concept of “yes-ladder” and preselling (people are more likely to agree to do something if they admit verbally they would do that in a similar situation)
It is important to note that if the girl likes you, any excuse will suffice. If she is on the fence, you may need some legitimate activity like weed or food or something that is of direct benefit to her. If she doesn’t like you, even a great seed won’t do the trick, unless she is a coke-whore and needs drugs.
Usage: Seed the pull now to make it easier later.