Excluding my FR because it has references to work, here was an interesting post on 1.17.08 of my Field Notes:
1. In a Fortune 500 company, the women will have moments where they let their guards down. This usually happens at night, during dinner/lunch and when drinking. They will flirt, and be open to seduction. However, just because I got kino and attraction, the next day, they may re-adjust and become totally professional. This is a strange “work-status” effect I noticed, from 2 HBs who I KNEW if I saw a a bar, would be down to fuck.
2. Manager status matters – the women I noticed respond to managers, out of respect, brown nosing or even just the “power” status. You really have to balance when a set is open for professional work purposes or for social purposes and to recognize these events. Note the indicators of a “work” and “social” conversation. However, when the social opening is there, lead! They will follow. You just have to recognize when it is a social game and when it is “work game”. These are 2 very different vibes between 2 or a group of people.
3. Overall, I would say, don’t game coworkers, even at a retreat/conference. The risks are too high. If you game, pull girls from outside of your work group.
4. If you can’t help yourself (like me), try to do it in a way that reassures the girl that you will be discrete. This is very hard to do, as it requires a very high level of trust.
5. Not masturbating/having sex with a FB for a whole week really ups your energy and forces to step out of your comfort zone. I learned a lot in the past 3 days!
6. Sarging in a new city really helps. You have nothing to lose. The numbers you get are all you have. I have really upped my game. Your group / guy game will improve as you make new friends, and befriending the warm alpha guys really helps, you recognize them by their style and the HBs they bring in to the club. Don’t waste time with cool guys who are cool, take up a lot of your time talking, but bring you no female bounty/trade as status.
7. This is more of a question/challenge that is in my head.
Let’s for a moment believe in the idea that pickup has no boundaries. Then, by theory, you should be able to pick up girls at work.
However, there is a strong limitation from the “wealth” sector, as it permeates your financial status and work status. So the trade off is severe. However, if you are able to be in a position where you don’t care about it, or if you have enough money to retire (some of the people here this week do), then you should be able to portray the non-reliance on your job, and be able to just have a totally social connection with a HB. Talking to many, many people this week, I believe that most people, while they may say they “like their jobs”, all have dreams to become something more. The corporate 9-5 work until you retire at 60 model is no longer valid, and we need to challenge this status quo. Women can talk work game, and portray their skills in a positive light, but when you turn the conversation into a fun mood, they always follow. The only exception is when a boss/manager is around.
Casanova was in many ways “free”. In other words, he was not limited by his status or money in a seduction situation, he always found a way to prevail. Perhaps there is a way to seduce HB at work. In our minds, if we are already free, then we are not chained to the financial burdens of a “job”.
The only 2 ways I see now of achieving this freedom, is 1. In your mind, really, sincerely not care about your job or finances to be happy. Or, more realistically, 2. Master finance by having enough money not to worry about a paycheck – then everything you do will be free of financial worry.
As you guys can tell, I am grateful for this experience and the stuff I have learned here. However, I am a little frustrated, because normally in a situation like this, I would have gotten laid by now if this wasn’t a work environment. It is also hard to let go such classy, talented HBs from this company’s high status culture that is frustrating me. It is like the forbidden fruit you cannot eat.
Our minds are chained to this world of corporate work and status quo. We need to free our minds of these constraints, and the rest will follow. Pickup is more than just about fucks or girls, I believe it is about freedom. Being “Free” to be means breaking through all of the boundaries that prevent you from reaching happiness. Now the question to Morpheus is, “ok. Free our minds. But how?”