For the first time in my life I have been at a project for more than 6 months straight, and I’m so focused on this and I’ve generated more money than I’ve made in the last 10 years in 6 months. Anyway, I also realized that I was seeking validation from getting girls. For example, I would think “Man, I’m a cool guy in my prime. Shouldn’t I be getting laid?”> And I’ve been thinking like this for a long time. A few months ago, I tried something new. I decided that just because I’m not having regular sex now, it doesn’t make me any less of a human being. I no longer held sex up as part of my ego’s validation as if that was what it was to “be a man”.
Anyway, I’ll stop and talk to a girl on my way to something (usually, the bank ;)) but I no longer spend a lot of time doing pick up. When I’m not in the office, I’m at the gym or at home resting.
I’ve noticed that when I goto the grocery store, etc. Girls stare at me and I get a lot of nonverbal IOIs. This is with me in gym clothes, or wearing a hoodie so people don’t bother me.
I think part of the “draw ” or “glow” of a man on a mission can be sensed by women (or maybe people in general?) Something about your eyes. As I’ve started hiring employees, I noticed that if I stare at them in the eyes for about 5 seconds, I can usually instinctively tell if they are a go-getter, or a guy who’s not on the level that I perform at. (I heard steve jobs used to do the same)
Would be interested in hearing others’ experiences that may relates to this.