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PLRM refers to the calm, nonchalant state that the PUA that occurs before sex for both the man and the woman. During this point in the pickup, it is implicitly understood by both parties that sex is going to happen, so the PUA basically just needs to not f*** things up.
During PLRM, there are two things the PUA needs to focus on. First, the PUA needs to maintain a strong frame and lead confidently. Even though sex is imminent, girls are always of conscious of not appearing like a slut. Any uncertainty on the part of the PUA will raise doubts in her mind about whether she should sleep with him. Thus, during PLRM it is important to for the PUA to lead smoothly and confidently all the way to the bedroom.
Secondly, during PLRM the PUA needs to appear casual and relaxed, and never needy or desperate. Ironically, the more the PUA appears as if having sex or not does not matter to him, the more likely his target will have sex with him. It is generally a bad idea to talk about sex at all at this point, instead using fluff talk and light kino to amp up the sexual tension. The point of PLRM is not to push for sex, but to create a comfortable atmosphere and transition smoothly into the bedroom.
Notice how Anika and Hank are relaxed before sex. The PLRM can also happen while in bed, joking and playing around before things get sexual and heavy: