• Playette

    by AlphaWolf & Co.

    AKA “Female Player”

    Quick Definition: The female version of a player.

    Full Definition:

    The playette is usually not an FPUA, in that she is not skilled in pickup terminology or schools of thought. She is, however, naturally skilled at game and has a very seductive avatar. The playette usually has multiple boyfriends and tons of orbiters.

    Playettes develop the natural charm and skill to attract many different guys, but rarely actually commit to just one. In many cases, playettes are more drawn to the seduction process than an actual commitment that results in a long-term boyfriend. Like many PUAs, they enjoy the thrill of the chase, but aren’t as interested in the comfort of a relationship.

    UPN ran a reality show on Dawn, a playette based out of Miami, FL. in 2004 that details some of her techniques in dealing with multiple men:


    Becky is a playette, she has multiple orbiters and a few boyfriends so gaming her will be very hard.

    Related Terms: FPUA, Cougar, Fake IOI, Player, Natural, MLTR, PUA, Orbiter, Social Value, Social Proof

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    Erika June 1, 2009 - 8:28 pm

    Wow, this is awesome! :-)

    alphawolf June 2, 2009 - 1:03 am

    Thank you! Play on :)

    Johnny C February 20, 2012 - 1:35 pm

    I’m not a PUA but do dip in occasionally for useful tips. I fell in love with a girl I work with, and she turned out to be a playette. That is what I would consider to be a very bad result. Thankfully I’m smart so started to see through all her “tricks” on how she gets guys to chase her without sowing any concrete interest in them. I don’t think half of it is even deliberate, but you are correct in saying they are very naturally skilled at ‘game’ and creating attraction. They sometimes flirt in a way that seems very innocent, and would be missed by an outside observer, such as getting very close to you and in your personal space, which of course can be passed off by her as nothing, but it gets the guy interested in her whilst giving her easy deniabilty that anything is going on.
    The worst part was I had more important things going on in my life and she always had boyfriends, so I never even tried it on with her, we were pretty good work friends, lots of long conversations, but as our friendship became closer she started full on gaming me, I was pretty livid and called her out on all of it. She started treating me like a guy she was leading on instead of treating me like a friend, I’m not gonna be made a fool out of like that by anyone. The mistake I made was thinking we had a genuine friendship when in fact I was an ‘orbiter’. I would have never fallen for her if I’d known this was her true nature, it felt like the girl I cared about was just a mirage, the persona she presented to me just wan’t real at all. The silver lining? Well it wasn’t hard getting over her knowing she wasn’t the sweet amazing girl I thought, but just a silly girl playing games.
    Anyway she is sexy beyond belief, so I would say these girls are great if you just want to chase them and f u c k them, but if you have genuine feelings for a girl like that I would run a mile, they are full of s h i t and nothing but trouble. She would always tell me about her many ‘guy friends’ but of course now I know better, they are orbiters. I doubt she has ever had a genuine guy friend in all her life, I don’t think she even knows how to be friends with a guy.
    Ironically the fact that I have a problem with her now and she knows it has just ramped up the tension between us even more, which was already pretty high anyway, so I’ll probably end up f u c k ing her one day, but seriously what a let down she turned out to be.
    That’s my experience of the playette.

    alphawolf February 20, 2012 - 1:40 pm

    Thanks for the story. There’s a fine line between flirting and playful games and leading someone on with no intention of giving up sex or what they expected to exchange from that relationship.

    Johnny C February 20, 2012 - 2:07 pm

    Yeah I think it was an unusual situation in that there was attraction there between us but I never actually tried to get her in to bed, and being work colleagues we spent a lot of time together. That’s what pissed me off so much, had I tried to shag her and she started playing me I would have just tried to game her back, but I considered her a friend, so when she started trying to game me and get me to chase her over friendship I was just like ‘are you kidding me?’ I’m not gonna chase her over friendship FFS.
    What I noticed was as I work with other attractive women, if I ignored her and showed them all the attention it drove her nuts and she’d end up trying to chase after me and get my attention, but if I then focused on her she’d start acting aloof. Jealousy definitely works a treat with these girls, they live for attention so don’t give it to them, even if you want them they’ll respond way better if they think you don’t need or want them.
    As I work with lots of women there is always playful flirting and banter, but with this girl it was definitely more about getting guys to chase her by showing genuine interest, just to feed her ego I guess.
    As you probably know the pandora’s box system is excellent for explaining why girls behave this way and how to get past it. Sadly for this girl despite the fact that she’s easily a 9 or a 10, I found her a much bigger turn on before I knew she was just a massive player, now she seems like just another hot girl with a crap personality, she’s missed out on what could have been a good thing with me, and I think she knows it.
    Anyway good little article alphawolf, you explain the playette in a nutshell very well.

    AlphaWolf February 20, 2012 - 2:24 pm

    That’s because I’ve been played :)

    That’s how we learn about players.

    As a PUA / seducer I try not to mislead my dates. I flirt and I tease, but when you know someone genuinely believes something that you communicated, and then you take that away or lie about it, then that crosses the line in the ethics code.

    Nonetheless, much like we learn martial arts for self defense, seduction be can done so as well. That’s why we have OPTIONS.

    Johnny C February 20, 2012 - 3:36 pm

    Yeah probably why I’ve never heavily got into the PUA material, because I know guys who misuse it and hurt people. To be honest I wish this girl would just f u c k off and leave me alone, I still work with her but not so often now, but I still catch her staring at me all the time, I know she’s seeing other guys so why does she want my attention, it’s like she knows I genuinely cared about her and she cares more about using that to make herself feel good without a single thought that playing games with me might actually piss me off something chronic. The fact that I used to be in love with her makes it harder to deal with I guess, but she never knew I felt that strongly about her. What a nightmare. But hey good job I found out she was a player whilst I was her friend rather than her boyfriend, which if it wasn’t for some other BS I had to deal with in my life could quite easily of happened.

    Johnny C February 20, 2012 - 3:39 pm

    Also just a note on the pandora’s box material, I know it’s meant to add extra ammo for guys who like to pick up girls, but actually it’s also very useful for determining whether or not a woman is girlfriend material. As now I can tell pretty instantly if a girl is a ‘tester’ or an ‘investor’ and therefore worth putting the effort in with or whether they’ll be just another notch.


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