Personal Stickiness Level

Quick Definition: The idea that one guy’s experience with the same social setting may be different than another’s depending on his perceived or real value.

Full Definition:

Different guys /girls, in the exact same situation, get different results. For example, a socially natural, normal looking guy can go to a networking event and meet 3-4 super cool girls and future dates. The same event can happen for a socially awkward, normal looking guy, and because of his behavior or perceived social value, be less fruitful. He may get 1-2 numbers that flake. Why is it that some people have more “pull” than others? Yes, some of it is superficial. Height, good looks, body language. Other times, it is usually a combination of physical appearance, energy level, and the person’s behavior patterns.

This is an important concept to understand. Depending on where you are on the social totem pole, based on feedback from most of the people at different levels, your natural “pull” will differ from other guys. Your personal stickiness level will increase as you improve your game and the foundational pillars of your life, including your physical look and your style.

A super hot girl may goto the same party and get much more attention than a fat girl. These are basic social behaviors that are based on superficial or perceived value. Perceived value can change over time based on what we learn about a person. However, it is important to accept that the world does operate this way. As you get older and hang out less in clubs and environments that value superficial value, you may get to know people who their more intrinsic values. Deep people tend to value others more on these values. Thus, game recognizes game.

A great example of this is Tyler Durden from Fight Club. He gets different reactions from people he meets vs. Ed Norton’s character. Tyler is cooler and better than the narrator, and he tells him this in the movie:

Tyler Durden: “All the ways you wish you could be, that’s me. I look like you wanna look, I fuck like you wanna fuck, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not.”

Usage: Different people have different stickiness in different situations.

Related Terms: Lifestyle, Value, Situational Confidence, Core Confidence, S&R Value, Perceived Value