7 years. That’s a long time to be doing cold approach pick up. While I still do it part time, I have been semi-serious about it, and I have improved a lot over the years. Training with Psych definitely helps and he is able to break down my game at a level that I cannot.
That said, I got a lot of rejections recently. Model girl stopped texting me back after the first date. 2 girls flaked on me with online dating. Got a lot of numbers who constantly flake on me, will text back every once in a while, but again feels like pulling teeth. There’s always that feeling of “Resistance”, even when I let go and then reel in again. Furthermore, My Ex girlfriend send me an email that assumed me behaving badly and I was upset that she could think so lowly of me. The love haze is gone, and I still think highly of her but she never saw me for my potential. I was alone in my house, feeling bad about myself and complaining to my friends about my “misfortunes” and then sometime happened.
I started realizing how much of a big PUSSY I was.
I wasn’t always like this. I was better!?! I remember one night in SF I said, “Man, I can’t do this”, and one of the newbie wings, with glitter in his eyes said, “BUT, you’re fucking ALPHAWOLF!”.
That’s why it is so important to have a beginner’s mindset. In the expert’s mind there are few possibilities, in the beginner, there are infinite. We are always learning. I am always a student. For some reason I came to this important realization that I want to share with you here: NEVER GIVE ANYONE THE POWER TO DOUBT YOURSELF. Let me repeat that: NEVER GIVE ANYONE THE POWER TO DOUBT YOURSELF!
Here’s a scene that I was reminded of:
After that, the next day I went out during the day and got a few really solid numbers and have a few dates setup. I realized that I just needed to move past the bullshit. After that happened, I laughed at myself. Wow, I was letting some random girls I don’t even know make me doubt myself! Do you realize how fucked up that is?
People say that their parents fucked them up, or their girlfriend, sister, brother, etc. I think yes, parents have a HUGE influence on your unconscious mind and your mental health, but after a while your life is your own man. A real man doesn’t make excuses. He doesn’t complain. He does that is needed.
When I started this training with Psych I wanted to get super good at cold approach pick up, night or day game. So, it is time to finish my training. My Goal: to have the sex life that I want, and to be able to same night pull and get a lto of numbers and potential opportunities to meet and get to know really hot girls.
Julien talks about how to get good, and how most guys fail when things get tough. A lot of half assed effort and I see it all the time. What doesn’t get measured, doesn’t get managed. It is amazing to me how many guys don’t somehow track their in field audio, video, or write down and actually have a process about improving their game: