Quick Definition: Paradoxes (seemingly contradictory statements) in ideology that the newbie must deal with in the beginning of learning seduction.
This concept relates to the general “paradoxes of game” post. Essentially, these are the paradoxes that newbies face.
One of the apparent contradictions is the idea of Authenticity vs. Change. Some PUAs advocate being authentic to our core self—JM, for example, believes that inside every man is a bright and shiny individual. You just have to sculpt away at the marble to find the real masterpiece. MM and other methods believe that there needs to be a fundamental shift in the person’s identity to become “sex worthy.” As Tyler and Mystery would say, “How can you find deep identity level change when you have been a chode all of your life?” In these cases, the clay must be sculpted into a new form.
Another newbie’s paradox focuses on the level of indifference toward his results versus the belief that his actions will work. On one hand, PUAs advocate being outcome independent and not caring about the results. On the other hand, we admit that, at the end of the day, a good instructor is someone who can help his students get laid. Yes, women are people too, but can you close and get results? Nothing else matters but the mission!
To become an artist requires change. But, at the beginning of trying on new things, there is going to be a period of “try-hard” behavior as the newbie becomes accustomed to the new rules of the game. But game advocates not being a “try hard” and being real.
- Real change occurs when deep identity level change takes place, and this happens in tandem with the person discovering his real self.
- The PUA should be outcome independent during the interaction but, in the long term, have his sight set towards a goal. Measure your successes along the way.
- Try hard, but also admit that you are new to this. Admitting that you are new puts the pressure away and also lets you focus on yourself rather than other people.
Paradoxes exist in all subjects of study, but particularly in pickup because of the philosophical nature of the discussions on the forums. Ultimately, the truth lies in the field, for the person to experience on their own.
n/a – concept
- Article on the meaning of “paradox” on Wikipedia