I am in between writing my book, doing a photoshoot and enjoying some parties I previously was invited do.
Therefore I will leave some quick lessons for you as I take a quick break on my computer.
Lesson 1: Mr Smooth Game.
Frame: I don’t need your pussy I’m on my own dick. (Kanye West)
When I had a girlfriend and I was at salsa club, I never hit on girls, I simply wanted to dance. Ironically, more girls found me attractive. I wasn’t selling anything, and I wasn’t nervous talking to them.
Frame: Everyone else is trying to fuck. I am just here to dance.
I am not trying to get anything from you. Therefore our exchange can only be based on that of mutual respect and value.
Lesson 2: Getting laid automatically brings about this state. It is like women can sense it.
If you just gave a girl head, don’t wash your face and go out. You’ll notice a distinct difference when women are next to you. I don’t think the same thing works for girls. I.e. more guys give her attention because she just gave a guy a blow job. Someone should test this.
Lesson 3: Asshole confidence vs. Calm confidence
Frame: You can make other people feel good and still feel good about yourself
Still, knowing when to take a stand. Depends on threat assessment (real fights, insecure guys). Letting some things go from guys who have no power, who pose no threat to you. Understanding when to fight for a RESULT, versus fighting for your own EGO.
Some girls will still look at your weird, even IF you just got laid and are relaxed. You just think they are weird. Your frame is MUCH stronger and it becomes reality. You can’t control a stranger’s reaction to you all the time. You can, however, control your frame and gain domain over their reality as your reality becomes stronger and is reinforced by the social situation.
Example of Billy Walsh. He started out as Asshole confidence, and ended Entourage as a calm, confident guy. Notice the difference. The asshole is a more interesting character on TV to watch. But, as friends, people like the calmer Billy Walsh better: