Mis-calibration is how PUAs learn. It is a ACTION that you took from an observation. This is where the lessons are made, so don’t lose the lesson. For example, if a girl says,
“I don’t like sushi” in response to, “have you ever been to blow fish?”
- Well, fuck you too
- Who ever said anything about sushi?
- Anyway, my friend and I were there last night and we had a blast dancing
- Turn to her friend and say, “you can doll her up, but you can’t take her anywhere”
What would your answer be?
- It feels nice but too harsh, and she can punish you for breaking social code
- logically IODs her, you weren’t even talking about sushi and is a valid response
- You’re ignoring her IOD, which can be done, if you are a good optimistic guy, but generally you’re setting a pattern where she’s showing disinterest and negligence towards you.
- This is a straight up neg, and can be done with bitchy girls who have a shield up. In MM theory, this is the best response.
In each one of these cases, the answer can change depending on the tone of the girl’s voice, her body language, where her eye is looking, and what was said before and after that line. Calibrating correctly is the key.
Generally speaking, you want to maintain a frame of I’m a cool guy and I’m here to have fun, who are you? I hope you’re interesting. You shouldn’t take shit from anyone, and can playfully dish out any “harmful” glances or quips about what you’re saying. This is called social dexterity.
Mis-calibration is good, unless you’re always mis-calibrating to the same event. You may lose the set, but don’t lose the lessons. Most of your hard-won lessons and skill set will come from mis-calibrations that show you what you did wrong and reveal the right path on your reference experience map.
Usage: I mis-calibrated to her shit test when it really wasn’t a shit test and she got mad at me.