Quick Definition: The resilience that comes with faith and belief that over time, things will improve beyond one’s immediate visible circumstances.
When Jascha Heifetz, regarded as the most influential violinist of the twentieth century, was asked why he endured such a grueling practice regime day in and day out, despite being one of the very best, he replied saying, “If I don’t practice one day, I know it; two days, the critics know it; three days, the public knows it.”
As humans we are prone to apathy and complacency. Not even the best of us are immune to it. For example, think about how common it is for people who joined a gym and worked out religiously for a few months and gotten half-way to a Olympic athlete’s body, to gradually start working out less and less until they’re in the same shape as they were when they were starting out. The pitfalls facing the pickup artiste are similar. Initially you might find yourself motivated and pushing yourself each night to improve your game. But once you find yourself dating the type of women that you always desired and having the types of social interactions that you never were a part of, the tendency to rest on your laurels and take things easy sets in. And soon you find yourself regressing so slowly that you hardly notice it, but so surely that one day you find yourself being the same awkward old AFC that you once were. This is a rut that is incredibly hard to get out of.
Your long game motivation deals with your ability to prevent yourself from getting bogged down with this complacent attitude and the process of sustaining your motivation over a long period of time.
A few tips to help cultivate your long game motivation:
- Set challenging but achievable goals – It’s easy to lose motivation over time if the goals that you set yourself are too far out of your reach. For example, if you are a beginner pickup artiste, setting yourself a goal of scoring a threesome with blond twins from the get-go, will mostly likely result in you ending up demotivated and feeling like a failure before you even master the art of approaching a strange woman.
- Re-evaluate yourself regularly – Celebrate the goals that you do achieve, but also make sure that you keep setting bigger and more challenging goals for yourself.
- Compete only with yourself – Like a wise man once said, the only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.
- Let the fear motivate you – Whenever you feel like taking a break from working on your game, imagine how much worse your life would be if you lost whatever social skills you’ve acquired up to now.
- Visualize your desired state of being – Start each day by visualizing the type of confident, attractive and socially adept man that you want to become and end each day by evaluating how many things you did to take you closer towards being that man.
He didn’t quite become the PUA he could have because he lacked long game motivation.