• Is a prince still a prince if he switches places with the pauper?

    by AlphaWolf & Co.


    As artists sometimes we try to change and the world frowns upon it. Your friends, associates and even family are not used to the new “you” and if feels uncomfortable because it is unfamiliar to them. And as human beings, we fear and generally dislike the unfamiliar. Human nature has made us fear the unknown. You can’t change human nature.

    A deep identity change through experience sometimes need to be maintained for it to take effect. Coming from from Brazil, I FEEL different. Yet, in my interactions since coming back for a week, some people still react the same way towards me, despite me having a totally different, more confident frame. Don’t let this discourage you. As you continue living your life in you new identity, more and more people will take notice. New friends will be introduced to the new you. Remember that public opinion always follows real change.

    I am back in Sunnyvale and I hate this place. They say you hate that which you most fear of becoming, and I am not sure I agree with this. I am annoyed at the scene. A couple of events that happened over the past week:

    • I go back to work and realize that I work with people that are unmotivated. I see the fire die in their eyes. As smart as they are to have landed offers at Google, they have resigned to the fate of their roles, with no ambitions to move up in the organization or do something for themselves. This is a sad sight.
    • I go to salsa class, and find 2 other PUAs and 2 guys who are clamming and trying hard to 2 get/bounce mediocre looking girls. It was then that I realized that guys here HAVE to try hard. There aren’t enough girls to go around. The very act makes me shake my head. As I introduce myself I realize that there’s a tingling of fear in their eyes that I MIGHT steal their girls. Wow. What a sharp contrast to DD, who I met in Brazil when he said, “Listen, I am saying sober tonight and the priority is to get YOU laid. We do this every night and you are our visitor! So I won’t compete with you for the girls”. Talk about hospitality. And I appreciated it. He had mad game.
    • I walk around my apartment complex. I see old people, kids. Indian and Chinese families. One ugly looking blonde girl who thinks she’s hot shit. Old women wearing robes as they go swimming because their culture won’t allow skin showing. Chinese people speaking Chinese and generally avoiding eye contact, walking around with plaid shirts and khakis, with a complete lack of physical fitness or style. God I hate this FUCKING town.
    • Today I saw some cute Santa Clara girls at Safeway. Wow. First 7+ HB in 7 days! They’re probably preparing for the new semester. It was then that I realized I LIKE being in the presence of women. Hot women generally. And the town I live in foster a mentality of passiveness and chodeness.

    I hope that I can maintain the learnings I have had in Brazil. It has become clear to me that my current lifestyle requires a MAJOR overhaul. Time to make some decisions and step up.

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    RL September 2, 2010 - 12:15 pm

    As someone who’s lived on the East Coast my whole life, I’ve always been curious to know what the quality/quantity of women are in Nor. Cal. The impression I currently have is that the ratio kinda sucks, and that there are not that many attractive women (unless you have a certain thing for Asian women). Your post didn’t do much to assure me otherwise, unfortunately; have you ever visited the East Coast (NY-Boston-DC) and what did you think of the scene there?

    Thanks and keep up the good work!

    alphawolf September 3, 2010 - 2:30 pm

    Hey RL,

    Thanks for the comment.

    I am originally from Boston and yes, there were cuter girls there overall. There are cute girls here too. However the weather makes it difficult as it is always cold and I didn’t think a lot of Boston girls had good fashion sense. That being said the ratio at Harvard square is WAY better than out here. SF city itself it not bad.

    Once you develop good game and ratio should not be as big of a factor, but there is a difference as your sexual selection ratio changes so should your game.

    Don’t let the ratio stop you from moving to California though if that is what you want. This may help:



    RL September 13, 2010 - 10:12 am

    Thanks for the response. I’ve been in the game, so-to-speak, for over 3 years now and finally feel I’ve changed to the point where I can comfortably attract women here (currently spend my time in Providence and Boston). However, I went to a tech school in Worcester for 2 years (you can probably guess which one) several years ago, and all I remember is that my standards dropped drastically during that time (and I didn’t even realize it at the time). Not that it made a difference back then, because I was the worst AFC ever, but I don’t want to repeat this experience.

    Funny enough, I just talked to this European dude who moved from Silicon Valley to Boston a few years ago and he mirrored pretty much what you said. He told me that the Silicon Valley area sucked quality and quantity-wise, but that SF was ok. He also said that Santa Cruz had the “hot women,” but that he found Bay Area women in general more shallow than the women in Boston. Ironically I would have guessed the opposite.

    Were you ever a member of the Boston Lair or involved in the scene back when you were on the East Coast?

    alphawolf September 13, 2010 - 1:31 pm

    Hi RL,

    I was not in the Boston lair but I hear they run a pretty good group there. There were some rumours a few years back about the leaders kicking guys out if they are not improving and there were different feelings about that.

    A general awareness of the sexual ratio and the hotness of women in a location helps but don’t dwell on it. Similarly being well traveled definitely gives you a more rounded perspective on life.


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