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  • Indicator of Interest (IOI)

    By on December 22, 2008

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    Quick Definition: A sign or signal from an HB that conveys attraction.

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    IOIs are conscious, and often unconscious, actions that an HB takes to communicate her interest in a man. Most AFCs are ignorant of IOIs, but, with training, a PUA can begin to see the subtle signals that a woman may be interested in him, which can lead to warmer approaches.

    While there are many forms of IOIs and variations of IOIs, the general IOIs to look for, in order of escalation, are:

    HB sees you and holds eye contact, “come talk to me” look (AI)

    HB scratches her hand, touches her hair (unconscious physical)

    HB body language is warm and leans openly toward you (BL)

    HB touching you (kino escalation)

    HB complies with a request (compliance)

    HB says she likes something about you (verbal)

    HB has DDBL (eye contact)

    HB licking her lips (kiss close)

    HB pushes up her breasts (sexual escalation)

    HB willing to bounce or allow to be isolated, or leave the bar with you (seduction bounce)

    Sometimes women can throw out fake IOIs, which are not genuine indicators of interest but ploys designed to deceive a man into doing favors for her. Field experience and calibration will enhance a PUAs sensitivity and understanding of genuine IOIs.

    In the Mystery Method, it is often standard practice to go for a kclose after receiving 3 IOIs from a woman.

    Kezia demonstrating IOIsPart1Kezia demonstrating IOIs Part 2

    It is not necessary for IOIs to exists for the PUA to escalate. All you need is continued compliance (i.e. she doesn’t say stop). As you get better the social cues will become easier and easier to read.

    how a girl should send signals to a guy she likes


    That girl is throwing me IOIs like crazy; I should probably kiss her.

    Related Terms: Fake IOI, AI, DAI, IOD, MPB, Body Language, Calibration

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    • It’s actually funny that nowadays you have to teach men how to read indicators of interest. Women have this ability out-of-the-box, so they assume that men just “get it” whenever they IOI a man. But in reality, it takes a whole lot of practice to get perfect at reading indicators of interest.

    • Steve

      It’s no wonder there are so many women wondering why guys won’t ask them out.

    • Mystery

      Mystery Method has changed my life. The guy is a genious. I am grateful!

    • Trick

      All i can say is that at at 17 this has begun taking action. you have recrafted my future so positively, however i would love to become good enough to create my own methods and techniques rather than feed off others. Either way i could’nt be more grateful.

    • Johnny C

      Hey man, I commented yesterday on one of your pages about my experience working with a playette. Just had a question, I know a lot of it was pure game with her or fake IOIs, which were pretty easy to pick up on as I saw how she operated with other guys, and lets face it even the dumbest guys know deep down when it’s real and when it isn’t. But one thing always confused me about this girl, she always displays nervous body language around me. When I talk to her she’ll always without fail pick up a pen or a piece of paper and start fiddling with it in her hand. I find that strange considering she is a player and has no problem attracting guys being stunning and all, and bearing in mind we’ve known each other for a while. As I said she started full on gaming me and treating me like a chump when I thought we were mates so I kicked her to the kirb. She gave me real IOI’s mixed in with her flirty game playing, but why the nervousness? That doesn’t make sense to me. Do playette’s game every guy even if they are attracted to them? That just seems ridiculous and counter productive. Would appreciate your insight.
      Been enjoying refreshing my knowledge reading your site today.

      • I hesitate to over analyze this in answering your question because of the unhealthy level of attention you’re paying to this girl.

        A lot of times playettes are like compulsive liars. They DONT know how to TURN OFF flirting. They literally cant turn it OFF. It becomes addictive behavior. Oh, if I act like this, I get these responses from men.

        So they’re always in “flirt” mode. SO deep down she may be nervous around you or like you but she’s still reverting back to her playette ways. Just like we’re afraid that “oh, this girl actually might like me” and we still “game” her when the jury is already won.

        Similarly she could be playing you you just can’t tell sometimes. Better to lay cards out on the table or move on, this back and forth is annoying. Personally I pay no time or energy to this. I tell the girl briefly, “yes, you’re appreciated, and we’re good friends, and maybe one day … more”. I leave it at that and I move on. Or I invite them out 1-2 times, and let it go.

        Don’t linger on this. Like cigarettes, its bad for your health.

      • John

        Hmm…my guess is she’s uncomfortable being around you because you’re a misogynist meathead.

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