Written by AlphaWolf
Ah. Attraction. Isn’t it nice to be liked by the opposite sex? For guys, we are attracted girls way too easily. Any decent looking girl that catches our eye, and we’ll turn our heads like a pack of hyenas.
But what about a girl liking a guy? Getting a girl to like you has been the question many dating coaches try to answer for decades. If you want to dive deep into the PUA and evolutionary stuff, a man who has survival value, and conveys it clearly creates the most attraction for women. How this is done tactically can range drastically. Thus the need for different schools of seduction and thought.
Without further ado, here’s a breakdown of the components of an attractive guy:
Before you read the tactics, have a look at the principles that govern attraction via the attraction triggers post.
Looks: Yep. It matters. More so than genetic talent, looks refers to the way the guy has developed what was naturally given to him. Muscle tonality, clean cut features, hair grooming, and the ability to focus on the strong points of his physical build and minimize the weak. Girls do this all the time with well-picked dresses. For example, a guy with a great body but balding head can wear a stylish fedora to hide his weakness and show off his body. A guy with a skinny body can add on weight (and alpha-ness) with a well-fitted leather jacket.
Body Language: More important than the body is how you use it. Your movement through the room reflects your movement through life. Strength can be conveyed via strong and easy eye contact, controlled movements, straight back and chest up. The alpha-male has a walk or “strut” about him that is unique to his identity. He moves deliberately, not with wavering intent and unease.
Voice: volume, pitch, tonality and control can create immense attraction. Often overlooked, a man can greatly increase his attractiveness by slowing down and adding volume to his voice.
Style: Perhaps the most agile of the tactics, a good style can feature any guy as good-looking. Mastering style takes times, and the process of knowing oneself. More on Men’s Style articles are featured on Seducing With Style.
Charm: This refers to an innate quality, and more importantly, one’s likability factor. Charm works on women and men, and is often important for great leaders and to influence others to their cause. Charm is developed through personal interactions and the ability to come across as genuine and empathetic.
Charisma: This is difficult characteristic to describe, as it originally means “gift from God”. Charisma is a combination of charm, looks and stage presence. In short, it is the vibe of someone who really knows themselves. They have been through and conquered trials and tribulations to “arrive”. And this shows their strong identity that was forged through hardships and the trials they have taken upon themselves. They are traveling through life on their calling and mission.
Words: “Men fall in love visually, women, through their ears,” observes Zan Perrion. The words you use reflect the way you see the word. Any great artist has a strong selection of vocabulary, because of their inherent nature to explore and find the truth. The clever and melodic use of words can attract and seduce women, at first hearing.
Smell: Scent is an important factor, though pheromones of the best perfume alone will not get you laid, if the rest of you game is in need. Gum, good cologne and showering regularly should be routine by now for artists.
Interactions with others: How you interact with others reflects how others perceive you and how you treat yourself in the world. Interaction with others in a club or venue will show the women who you are and give them additional insights into your personality. Because women do not place as much emphasis on looks, any display of positive personality traits will move her towards to attraction meter for you.
Preselection: is the concept that women find what other women deem as attractive more attractive, than if the man was alone by himself. As such, any type of preselection is useful is creating attraction and getting a girl to like you. Be aware that getting a girlfriend doesn’t count because you cannot pick up other girls when you are with her. However, getting a female friend or two is excellent for preselection. Past pictures of hot girlfriends will also boost your stock price, amongst a social circle where people know your history. This is why high school or college jocks who hookup with hot cheerleaders tend to continue their hot streak, until they leave high school or college.
DHVs / Stories: See Demonstrating Higher Value in MM. The idea here is to articulate and memorize stories that were important to you. Tribal culture depended on stories for learning, and the human desire to listen to and tell stories is hardwired into our brains.
Humor: Not everyone is funny, but humor can be instilled in someone through practice, and the ability to loosen up and see the different side of things. More products or research in the PUA community should focus on developing a humorous and attractive personality (without resorting to dancing monkey syndrome)
Artistic value / performance: Comics, musicians and artists garner artistic talent. Musical, visual, or speech-related, these men have figured out a channel in which to communicate their personalities. Any type of positive personality displaying actions will create attraction over the general populace of women. This is why groupies exist for almost any type of artist.
Embodying the 7 personality traits of your idols: Napolean Hill mentions having a chart with 7 days of the week. Each day, he would have 1 personality trait he wants to embody that day. Of these personalities, he collected from the people he admired the most. What do your mentors and idols have as their core characteristics? Work on embodying them over time and instilling them into your core being.
How do you know if these things are working? Let’s go straight to the source and…
…Ask hot chicks:
- Doesn’t talk about other guys she wants to date
- Laughs at everything you say
- She’s looking at you (just a few seconds too much)
Ask the Hot Chick, how to tell if a girl is interested:
- Hair playing
- Body language facing you
- Asking you a random question
- Dropping hints at the guy
Now that you know the signs, begin to develop awareness and intuition for signs that girls are interested. Over time, you will feel like you have mind-reading powers over any girl you come across as a master of the game.