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Going to a bookstore and buying a book on picking up girls can be a nerve-wracking experience for two reasons: First of all, doing so would mean admitting to yourself that you are lacking the social skills necessary to attract and seduce a beautiful woman. And secondly, you are terrified of the judgement and hate you’ll get from people around you.
But what’s important to remember is that it doesn’t matter what you do to, if it’s something against the grain that’s intended to make your own life better in one way or other, you’ll come across people that judge you and hate on you for it. It’s just human nature and the way the world is. There’s no successful businessman, athlete, musician or actor that hasn’t had to wade through a sea of hate and negative reactions to get to where they are today.
There are many reasons that people hate on pickup artists and there are various types of haters.
One of the initial types of haters that you’ll encounter is sometimes your own circle of friends. A lot of guys have a hard time accepting and fathoming the idea that one of them is willing to put himself at risk and put in the effort needed to improve his love life. More often than not, this is because they themselves would never be able to find the balls or the drive to make the same effort. So instead of appreciating the effort a PUA makes to embark on his journey, they find it easier to hate on him and try to discourage it. In fact, almost every other man that will hate on you for being a pickup artist is someone who deep down inside feels inferior to you and finds some sort of self-assurance in hating on you.
You will also encounter a lot of haters who are female. These are usually women who feel that pickup artists are guys that are out to trick or con them into “giving up something of value.” It’s fair enough to point out that a few of these women might have had bad experiences with pickup artists who have done exactly that. These are usually the pickup artists who either start off with intentions of “getting one up over women” or those who have been unfortunate enough to be schooled by a PUA instructor who views the game as a battle between men and women. But the fact of the matter is, becoming a pickup artist and putting in the effort to improving your social skills is no different than a woman joining a gym to get in shape or putting on make up to look more attractive.
As long as you’re not being a bitter misogynist who feels like he’s out there fighting some imaginary crusade against all woman, it’s fair to say that the best way to deal with haters is to completely ignore them.