• Externalized Reference Points

    by AlphaWolf & Co.

    Quick Definition: The reference points that PUAs use that come from other people or social conditioning. These external reference points are then used by the PUA to judge him or herself.

    Full Definition:

    Sometimes we derive validation from other people. People with power and social influence, whether in high school or real life, have the ability to make an artist feel bad or feel good. When we use external reference points to judge our own actions, other people’s reality is your reality.

    It is important to realize that, sometimes, you have to abide by the rules, especially at work or with people of power who can use that power against you. Most of the time, however, social interactions have no influence on the PUA’s actual life. As such, awareness of externalized reference points is important for the artist to realize—that really, the only thing that matters is your own judgment of yourself.


    You’re using externalized reference points to judge your work in field. Use your own.

    Related Terms: Reference Points, Epiphany Chains, Social Conditioning, Social Programming, Social Value

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