Emotional Intelligence / Social Intelligence

AKA Social Intuition

Quick Definition: A measurement that describes the ability, capacity, and skill to identify, assess, and manage the emotions of one’s self, of others, and of groups.

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Study of emotional intelligence can be traced to Darwin’s early work on the importance of emotional expression for survival and second adaptation. In the 1900s, scientists began to notice other factors for success in life other than IQ. Today, the pickup community has integrated much of the science and art of understanding social dynamics.

Interestingly, the model introduced by Daniel Goleman related to EQ skills that drive leadership performance is very much related to the progression of a pickup artist:

1. Self-awareness — the ability to read one’s emotions and recognize their impact while using gut feelings to guide decisions.

2. Self-management — involves controlling one’s emotions and impulses and adapting to changing circumstances.

3. Social awareness — the ability to sense, understand, and react to others’ emotions while comprehending social networks.

4. Relationship management — the ability to inspire, influence, and develop others while managing conflict.

Compare this with the standard PUA pilgrimage:

1. AFC is made self aware of his own perceived social value, his strengths, and weaknesses

2. The aPUA begins to understand his weaknesses, strengths, and starts managing his life to reach his goals with women.

3. The PUA becomes socially intuitive over an average 3000 approaches. He/She becomes calibrated from field experience.

4. The mPUA also learns to manage multiple girls, to inspire others on their paths, and to manage conflict along this journey for mastery.

Thus, the development of social intuition will give PUA superpowers as it relates to understanding, learning control, and manipulating social situations to his or her advantage. Such is the art of seduction, as it has always been throughout history.


Over time, despite bad sets, you will eventually develop a heightened sense of social intuition from your fieldwork.

Related Terms: PUA Pilgrimage, aPUA, PUA, mPUA, AFC, Chode, Calibration, Social Value, Group Theory, Congruence, Inner Game

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Source: Daniel Goleman

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