Quick Definition: The part of a person’a identity that associates with “form” and exists as the survival mechanism of the human being’s brain circuitry.
There are many definitions of the word “ego”. Usually in pick-up the phrase refers to a person’s initial defensive mechanisms that prevent them properly learning pick up. Because the world of “cold approach” pick up is so different many people struggle to properly understand the willingness to learn it. The ego can manifest itself in the following ways:
- Pride – too much pride to admit that one needs help getting women, in the long term actually hurting your progress and wasting time.
- Past Identity – the association of one’s present status to the past, and therefore being stuck in the past, “I used to be the pimp in college!”, while not realizing that college is now over, and life is a constant stream of changes.
- Denial – real behavior is observed, not heard. If the person denies needing help, or denies reality as he sees it, it will hurt him in the long run because he is not “accepting” of the reality of the circumstances.
Eckhart Tolle explains ego is a slightly different way. In his words, he mentions the ego as a survival mechanism, that is designed to reproduce and gather food. To this extent is will create identities and rationale that prevent us from change in certain instances.
The ego is not the actual person’s presence, but it takes over as a false sense of self hiding the core. Egos are insecure, jealous, seeking approval and needing attention. The core and the source is not based on the identity with form, but rather, the acceptance of what simply is.
Further explanations of being in the present moment and letting go of the ego can be explored in his book The Power Of Now.
Don’t let your ego get in the way of your progress.