Quick Definition: The idea of controlling a situation by removing the trigger points for decision control by the other party, thereby eliminating power at key points of an interaction to make a conscious denying or rejecting action in response to your advances.
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According to Gambler, decision dependency is…
The fastest way to reverse the situation, and gain the power to literally take things forward whenever you want, is to eliminate your “decision dependency”. What do I mean by this?
Well, if the root cause of all rejection is her decision to either accept or deny one of your plays, then what you need to do is to get rid of the root, or in other words – her decision in its entirety.
How is this possible? Well…If you are never making a “play” she has no decision to make. She can neither deny, nor reject you. And if you never make a “play” from the beginning of the interaction, to the end, she will at no point have a decision to make.
For example, instead of asking “do you guys want to join us for lunch”, you can remove decision dependency by saying instead, “we are going to this place for lunch, feel free to join us if you like”. This puts the pressure of responding with a yes/or down, and the other party can choose to join you if they like.
Usage: In negotiations you want to keep big decisions that favor you in check by removing your decision dependency on the other party’s power to make a decision regarding you.