Dancing Monkey

AKA Dancing Monkey Syndrome

Quick Definition: A PUA who is high energy and entertaining, but not necessarily attractive.


Full Definition:

A dancing monkey is someone who falls into the trap of being too over-the-top and entertaining, at the expense of being attractive. Many newbies start off being too low energy for high energy venues such as night clubs, and make the mistake of overcompensating by being excessively loud and peacocked. Instead of appearing confident, dancing monkeys come across as attention and approval seeking, even obnoxious.

Other pick up artists fall into the trap of being the entertainer. While it is an attractive trait to be able to be humorous, entertaining, and the center of attention, entertaining a woman is not the same thing as seducing her. Often, a dancing monkey may keep a group of girls entertained all night, but the girls can end up going home with a more experienced seducer who is more focused on the process of seduction.

Ultimately, it is important for PUAs to remember that there are different stages to the pickup process. To use the simplistic M3 Model, a pick up can roughly be broken into the stages of Attraction, Comfort, and Seduction. A dancing monkey is usually someone who concentrates only on the first of these stages, whereas a true PUA knows that it is also important to build and emotional connection and create some sort of sexual tension.

 

Dancing Monkey
A dancing monkey is entertaining, but not necessarily attractive

Ultimately, it is important for PUAs to remember that there are are different stages to the pickup process. To use the simplistic M3 Model, a pick up can roughly be broken into the stages of Attraction, Comfort, and Seduction. A dancing monkey is usually someone who concentrates only on the first of these stages, whereas a true PUA knows that it is also important to build and emotional connection and create some sort of sexual tension.

Usage:

Bob’s a real dancing monkey– he’s funny as hell, but couldn’t number close a girl for the life of him!


Related Terms: Attraction, Rapport, Seduction, Phase Shift, Sexual State, State Change


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