Quick Definition: The degree of one’s authenticity; the similarity and general state of agreement between one’s internal state and external self.

Full Definition:

RSD defines game as “the external representation of your internal frame.” To this point, game is about congruency.

In the beginning, an aspiring PUA must step out of his comfort zone to achieve new comfort thresholds because what has felt comfortable in the past has not worked. Studies have indicated that it takes at least 30 days to instill a behavior as a habitual routine.

Thus, congruence occurs when a PUA’s inner game matches his outer game; the PUA’s skills have become motor responses and part of his unconscious mind.

Incongruence occurs when the PUA says things that are alpha and portray a certain character, but inside he still does not believe it nor has the lifestyle to backup his behavior and comments. Women will often use shit test to see if men are being congruent and are the “real deal” as opposed to someone who is just faking it.

There is an inherent paradox in the community about congruence. A man can be a total loser or nerd, but be very congruent with who he is. In this case, he is congruent with his uncool image. In order to change his image to become “cool” and attractive, there will be a period where he takes on new things and behaviors that will at first seem incongruent to who he used to be. The key to doing this the right way and avoiding this paradox is to try out new things but always remember your original goals in pickup and your core values. This way, congruency with core values will stay, while your outer game remains open to new changes.

Related Terms: Inner Game, Congruence Test, Shit Test, Incongruence, ComfortZone

Source: Real Social Dynamics