date: Mon 30 August 2003 19:35 GMT
website: www.charisamarts.com (now defunct)
subject: Cold Approach …A few years ago while working in a variety show I began the habit of getting to the theatre early. I would run up and down the stairs until my heart was really …
Here is a technique for the guys (and girls) who become nervous or suffer from anxiety when cold approaching a cute girl/guy.
Here is what happens to many people: They see an attractive prospect. They think about approaching. Their heart begins to beat fast. They feel their body tighten up. They think, “I’m nervous. My nerves are going to mess my delivery up.” That makes them tense up even more.
From here, they either talk themselves out of approaching or they go in and, sure enough, their delivery sucks and they crash and burn.
Following the 3 second rule will help a lot in these situations. But also rehearse your openings and routines while simulating the physical conditions within your body which you experience when you approach.
A few years ago while working in a variety show I began the habit of getting to the theatre early. I would run up and down the stairs until my heart was really pounding. Then I would walk out onto the stage and practice delivering my lines as smooth as possible. At first it was awkward to speak while breathing hard and having my blood pumping. But after awhile I became good at masking the symptoms of physical pressure. This gave me the confidence to know I could perform well even if I was nervous. This knowledge in itself made the nerves really diminish.
So I suggest doing something similar. Go for a run or lift weights and while exercising practice the Elvis opener or my, “This bar was built on an Indian burial ground” opener or any routine. Work on speaking smooth and confidently.
You also get to save time by having a workout while getting better at seduction.