Originally separated via 2 posts, Mystery has an epiphany about “cats”
Cats don’t take orders, but they can be tempted to chase. If you tie a feather to the end of a string, and use it properly, YOU can get a cat to perform acrobatics. But isn’t it interesting that if you put the feather down in front of the cat, she will turn up her nose?
Cats are always curious, especially about shiny new things such as the ball on a rubber cord, the catnip, the treats, the feather on a string, etc. She can be easily distracted but once she is invested in tiling to catch something, it can become her single-minded focus.
There is a lot to learn from cats. If you push a cat off of you, she jumps back into your lap. If you want to hold her, then she wants you to put her down. If she is feeling nasty she might bite or scratch. She craves attention and she gets jealous of other cats. Sometimes she’ll just rub against you and purr with contentment — you can really tell when a cat likes someone.
A cat sees the feather from across the room, but continues about her business. Then the feather slightly moves and her gaze is drawn. When the feather jumps once or twice more, she starts to steadily creep in its direction. Jerk the string at just the right time, and the cat suddenly goes crazy, running circles around the room, flying over furniture to catch that feather.
As PUA proceeds with a pickup, he keeps validation and attention just slightly out of her reach. If he is too easily acquired, then she will quickly grow bored and lose interest. But likewise if he is completely unattainable, then she will also lose interest and give up.
So I was dwelling on the old cat-string theory today and thought I would write a few thoughts about it. For those of you who don’t know, the cat-string theory basically describes an interaction between a ball of yarn and a cat.
When you give a cat a ball of yarn, it plays with it for awhile and has a good time. However, after 15-20 minutes or so, it gets bored and leaves the ball of yarn. It may come back to the yarn later and play with it and it may even do that several times.
In contrast, when you take the ball of yarn in your hand and hold it just out of the reach of the cat, letting the cat get a touch of the yarn every once in awhile, the cat will pursue that ball of yarn for hours. The holder of the yarn has control over the cat for virtually as long as they want.
The same scenario applies to humans. When you give someone something to keep, they enjoy it for awhile, but grow bored of it after time. When you make yourself available to someone all the time, they appreciate your availability for awhile, but again grow bored or tired of having you around all the time (no matter how cool or fun you think you are).
On the flip side, when you give someone something for just a moment, or give them a taste of something but not the whole thing, they actually appreciate it more and give more attention to it. This also applies when you rarely make yourself available to someone. They get a small taste of you but not the whole thing. There is a mystery to you and they value the time they have with you even more.
In business and marketing they tell you that one of the best ways to demonstrate value of a product is to make it scarce or exclusive. If you as a person wish to demonstrate value of yourself to others, simply make yourself scarce and exclusive.
Just some random thoughts this morning. Hope you found it to be interesting. Feel free to leave comments.
cat-string is simply being a coquette or more commonly known, doing the push-pull.
now honestly, i see all these people saying “blah blah blah, no games, blah blah”
ok, lemme give you two scenarios, you tell me which one is more ATTRACTIVE.
1) guy’s needy. guy calls you all the time (several times a day), he pays for everything, buys you flowers, carries your bags, does everything that you ask him to do, etc etc; he isn’t sexually aggressive, and you feel like you always have to lead in that interaction. now i might have PAINTED a rosy picture, but think of the last time some guy did that for you and think to yourself how attracted you were to this guy.
2) guy isn’t needy at all. he wears his agenda on his sleeve all the time. yes he’s attracted to you, but he shows it when he’s with you. he’s busy, so he doens’t ALWAYS reply to your emails/calls immediately (sometimes waits a few days)
now tell me, WHO piques your curiosity more. guy 1, or guy 2.