Carlos Xuma

Carlos Xuma is a dating and attraction expert, as well as a Black Belt martial arts instructor and motivational life counselor. He is one of the original online coaches that started teaching men attraction in the early to mid 90s.

As such, he has authored many books, such as The Dating Black Book, Secrets of the Alpha Man, the Bad Boy Formula, and many others.  Carlos’ Alpha Man programs teach the essence of attraction between the sexes – using his trademarked system called R.E.A.L. Game™, which he’s been teaching for the last 10 years through his programs and seminars.

As the internet came along and the seduction community exploded in 2005 to 2006, Carlos continues to stay focused on natural game by drawing out authentic personalities to attract women, and creating your entire Alpha Lifestyle.

Carlos has appeared on/in:

  • Playboy Magazine
  • CBS & ABC television
  • Neil Strauss’ Stylelife
  • Maxim Magazine
  • David DeAngelo’s Dating Gurus
  • The Allen Handelman “Rock Talk” Radio Show
  • Playboy Radio
  • WorldTalk Radio
  • Summum Magazine
  • Maxim Radio

Carlos Quotes

A lot of guys read too much into how to get a girlfriend. In truth, starting a relationship with a nice, good-looking woman is not that difficult, so long as you don’t blow it right from the start.”

“One of the biggest factors in how to get a girlfriend is not what TO do, but rather what NOT to.”

“So just remember that women need to be touched quickly and confidently when you first meet them. This triggers instinctual responses in her that tell her that you are a sexual man, and that she should forget about the “friends zone” with you.”

Carlos on meeting women on Facebook:


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