• Beginner’s Hell

    by AlphaWolf & Co.

    Quick Definition: The first 6 months of getting into the game and the difficulty of the learning curve that affects most guys.

    Full Definition:

    For guys who are less socially calibrated (former geeks, nerds, loners), the beginning 6 months is literally a Beginner’s Hell. They must become more socially calibrated in interacting with people in general, as well as trying to pickup girls. A lot of rejection is waiting for them. They have to make fundamental changes to their voice tonality, body language, and overall posture. We call this the 6 months Beginner’s Hell because, for these guys, it usually takes the 6 months to get from opening to getting laid.

    More natural guys (i.e successful businessmen who can’t talk to women) typically have more progression and a smaller chance of giving up within the first 6 months. However, it is still relatively difficult. Usually, reframing helps during this period. Treat it as a learning experience. Every encounter helps you in some way. Every failure has a seed of equivalent success.

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    Related Terms: AMOG, Alpha, Beta, Lifestyle, Calibration, Social Hierarchy, Blow Out, C&B, Field Experience

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    Evil Genius (for a Better Tomorrow) April 3, 2010 - 9:35 pm

    Actually, I am a geek and one of the big reasons I want to learn a lot of these techniques is not to get laid a lot, but to improve my career by increasing my skills in business interactions. I’m fine with other geeks, but I have to learn the interactions with managers and above.

    Sjoerd April 12, 2010 - 10:00 am

    yeah right…

    Richard | RichardShelmerdine.com April 17, 2010 - 12:58 am

    I think you’re right. With any big change the start is always the hardest but I thrive on challenges and actually seek them out which is the best mindset I’ve ever adopted. I can’t wait to dive into some of this stuff!

    Mothman454 July 14, 2012 - 4:09 pm

    It may be called “Beginners Hell”, but im have tons-o-fun learing and perfecting my game, which pretty much started 2 months ago (Im 41 yrs old).


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