AKA Approach Grenade Newbie
Certain newbies and even intermediate PUAs never learn. They make the same mistakes over and over again. A certain type of newbie, so lost to social feedback and the ability to calibrate, are actually addicted to approaches. He makes the same mistakes over and over again and is oblivious to the social discomfort he is causing.
They are addicted to failure, or doing approach after approach without adherence to the actual results. When asked “what is your goal in pick up”, the approach grenade will often say, “it’s just for fun!”. When asked “what can you do better?” He will often say, “that was great!”. Without referring to specifics of his interaction within the set.
He is usually unwilling to change, and only interested in doing the approach. He is most often badly dressed, badly groomed, and says inappropriate or un-calibrated things in set.
A few tips on not being the Approach Grenade:
- Develop self awareness. Ask the question, “how are other people perceiving me right now?”
- Ask for feedback from better PUAs or naturals. How am I doing in set?
- Calibrate. Try different things, don’t do the same thing over and over again and expect the same results
- Read “7 Mistakes Intermediate PUAs still make“
That dude is a complete approach grenade! There’s casualties everywhere