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  • The Belief System of a Successful Man

    …lief system. In fact, if you ask men who are successful with women, you will find out that they have very common beliefs about life. And those beliefs are usually different from most of the average men. If previously, pick up artists and dating advisors were concentrated on technicalities – what to say, how to behave, etc. – today the importance is beliefs and “inner game” receives strong emphasis. In this post I would like to present…

    Limiting Belief

    …ck Definition: A belief that holds one back from reaching one’s true potential. Full Definition: Limiting beliefs are something that a PUA must overcome if he wishes to develop solid inner game. Limiting beliefs vary from person to person, but generally take the form of “I can’t” statements or limitations on what a person thinks they are capable of. Common limiting beliefs include: “Women don’t find me attrac…

    Affirmation

    Quick Definition: An exercise by which one builds new beliefs by restating or “affirming” them on a regular basis. Full Definition: Affirmation is a technique taken from the fields of self-help and pop psychology. The basic idea behind Affirmation is that our thoughts shape our identity and the way we perceive the world. Thus, if we hold negative thoughts and repeat negative beliefs to ourselves, we become negative people, whereas i…

    Inner Game

    Quick Definition: The area of game that deals with one’s personal development, inner beliefs, core values, and life goals. Full Definition: Inner game is the core of pickup. While learning techniques can help convey the characteristics of a man who has strong inner game, to remain train truly congruent as a pickup artist, one must develop solid inner game. Developing strong inner game will help one to overcome congruence tests, shit te…

    Christian PUA

    …o go up to girls and conquer their fears. A Christian PUA generally dates other Christian girls, because of his beliefs that sex should be saved for after marriage. Although not always, other girls outside of the church can also be gamed as long as they share similar beliefs. The idea of success with women is simply having options, and even Christians sometimes are single and male and need to learn how to meet girls that they can eventually fall…

    Core Value

    Quick Definition: The inner values behind a person’s beliefs and life views. Full Definition: The true beliefs of a person’s world views and what he holds important. Loyalty, for example, can be a core value of a PUA. Others may have “Faith” or “Courage under fear” as core values. Core values can be developed by putting those values into practice in real life and living by those values. Related Terms: Core…

    Meme

    Quick Definition: A unit of cultural ideas, symbols, or practices that transfer and replicate from one mind to another through…

    Belief System

    AKA “PUA Belief System” or “Life view of women” Quick Definition: A person’s accepted reality, especially his/her overall view of the opposite sex and their conditioned responces to them. Full Definition: For the most part, unless a man is gay, a monk, or alone on the island, a large part of his life is focused on his relationships with women. As such, we all have beliefs that are constructed based on our reference points and experience with th…

    Recalcitrant Experience

    Quick Definition: An experience that shatters the web of beliefs a person has built up as a way of maintaining his worldview. Full Definition: In Tyler Durden’s Blueprint, he explains the concept of recalcitrant experience in detail: 1. A person has to be of a certain mindset to sense a misalignment between their psychological certainty and their experience of the world. When this happens, we see a “break in the clouds” or a &…

    Deep Identity Level Change

    Quick Definition: A permanent change in a person’s core beliefs or core characteristic, which can happen very quickly, but is usually the result of a buildup over a longer period of her time. Full Definition: A true change in a person’s core beliefs. This is permanent, and it changes the person forever. Identity level changes usually involve a high degree of emotion and, sometimes, stress. They usually occur after trying or achievi…

    The 7 Most Useful Examples of Pickup Jargon

    My last article for PUA Lingo seemed to prove popular. Strange as it was giving lingo a jab to the kidney area :-) So, to balance the universe, I thought I should share my favourite pua lingo terms. Stuff that I think helps, rather than hinders guys meeting women.Anyone who has followed my teachings will know that I am not a big fan of jargon. Whether it’s in the ‘how to get a girl‘ part of life or any other. However I do reali…

    Social Pressure

    Quick Definition: The pressure one feels to behave in a certain way based on society and other people’s expectations. Full Definition: Being able to take, manage, and redirect social pressure is the key to becoming a master of social dynamics. In many ways, becoming a pickup artist is about not conforming to the expectations and limiting beliefs of society, but rather acting in a way that is most conducive to seducing women. Whenever soci…

    Courtship

    Quick Definition: The traditional term for the process of beginning a sexual relationship. Full Definition: Courtship is a term that developed from social studies to describe the mating process. Courtship differs across time periods and cultures and has been studied by many in the academic research arena. Throughout history, the scientific data has corresponded strongly with the theories of courtship as indicated by pickup artists, despite soci…

    Crew Spence from Ethical Pickup Interview

    Crew, in his wrestling days I finally caught up with the founder of Ethical Pickup Crew Spence and we chatted about what it means to be a man and how to properly destroy your limiting beliefs about “you’re not enough”. In the episode we talk about: How we trained a deaf guy to have abundance with women How he simplified all the codified “pick up lingo” and made it simple and clear for his clients Why he does what h…

    Sex God Method (SGM)

    Review of the E-book Sex God Method from Daniel Rose. (E-Book Download) Product Name Sex God Method Author Daniel Rose Company Affiliation Sex God Method Release Date 2006 Skill Level Advanced, Sexual Technique Rating Product and content quality – 24/25 Innovation of material – 24/25 Application in field/bed – 25/25 Value for money – 25/25 Total Score 98/100 (A+)/100 (based on 1 review) Price $37.00 Format Ebook Reviewed By Vince…

    Cognitive Dissonance

    Quick Definition: The human brain’s ability to reduce contradictions in their thought patterns by way of altering existing reasons and rationale as to why they desire certain things or believe a certain idea. Full Definition: Under pressure, or when introduced to the new world of seduction, the newbie can be in a distressed or stressful state. As such, they may “find themselves” doing things that don’t fit with what they…

    Subcommunication

    AKA non-verbal communication Quick Definition: Messages that communicated between people without being stated in words, stemming from one’s body language, vibe, double meanings, movement, and actions in a given situation. Full Definition: The reason mPUAs often say, “It doesn’t matter what you say as your pickup line” is because of subcommunication. The master can take a bad line and make it good by the subcommunication of his…

    Mastering Sex Game

    “The biggest demonstration of higher value in relationship is good sex.” With this one quote, Dan Rose caught my undivided attention. At this point in the game, you are likely having some success at talking to girls and getting their numbers. After a date, it is time to turn on your sex game. Unfortunately, a large majority of guys are still bad in mediocre in bed. This is because most are unwilling to admit that this is an area the…

    Frame Control

    Quick Definition: Controlling the frame that a target or group uses to interpret a specific event or situation. Full Definition: “Framing,” in the context of media studies, sociology, and psychology, refers to the social construction of a social phenomenon by mass media sources or specific political or social movements or organizations. It is an inevitable process of selective influence over the individual’s perception. In PU,…

    Anchor

    Quick Definition: An association of an emotional state with a physical touch, body motion, or a verbal phrase. Once created, the PUA can elicit the emotional state in his target by using the anchor. Full Definition: Anchoring is a term that originates from neuro-linguistic programming, which deals with how different emotions and feelings can become associated with (anchored to) a stimulus. The classic example for this is when psychologist Ivan…

    Sex and Dating in the Big City, 24/7 Attractive Style

    Do you live in a big city? Well if you do, then you’re in luck. You can date many, many attractive women by increasing your awareness with this article. Big Cities usually have more interesting things to do on a daily basis versus smaller ones. Literally everyday there’s some festival, social event or mini-marathon, and in terms of groups, cliques, and places to go to big cities never fail in terms of diversity of cultures. Big citi…

    Stealthy Kino Moves

    Guest post by Anders Tryka Hi guys Anders Tryka here,Casual has been following my blog Powerful Connections for some time and suggested that I write a guest post or two for PUA Lingo and since a lot of my blog and e-book readers have been asking me for some of my more stealthy KINO stuff I thought I might as well just go on ahead and write about it here. Maybe you have been in the same situation as many of the guys that I have coached along the…

    Unconditional Love

    Quick Definition: Love for another person or living being, inconsequential of their actions or beliefs. Full Definition: Unconditional love can find its origins in the Bible, where Jesus forgives the sins of man despite his actions in the eyes of God. In behavioral therapy, unconditional love means to love someone, and this love is separate from the individual’s behaviors. Therefore, loving them as is. A mother’s love for her child…

    Incongruence

    Quick Definition: When one’s external representation is not an accurate reflection of his or her internal state, the opposite of congruence. Full Definition: Incongruence occurs when the self that one presents to others does not match up with their actual self. PUAs who rely too heavily on canned routines often come off as being incongruent because the material that they are using has nothing to do with who they really are. Incongruence i…

    Non-Reaction Seeking

    Quick Definition: An attitude and mindset a pickup artist adopts that enables him to not be overly reactive to the emotions and reactions of others. Full Definition: Non-reaction seeking is a behavior that allows a person to act based on his own internal frame, as opposed to the social pressures and frames of others. As Tim of RSD calls it: the “don’t give a fuck about what anyone else thinks” mentality. This does not mean tha…


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