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  • Beta Male Shaming

    Quick Definition: The tendency of women (and sometimes men) to shame a provider-type or beta male if he steps too far from the confines of his more provider-type flirting style. Full Definition: Women hold the provider male / beta male to a different standard of conduct, sometimes subconsciously, for their own genetic reasons. They need these guys to be able to provide for them and therefore cannot reveal her true sexual nature for fear of bein…

    Secret Society

    …If someone in the society is not having fun with an interaction, it is cut off. Conversely, if a secret society male is with a non-secret-society male, and a secret society female (all females) decides she wants sex from the secret society male, the friend of the female may have sex with the non-secret-society male, because EVERYONE in the interaction must feel good. However, if the non-secret-society male is blowing himself out so badly that he…

    Alpha Male

    …dominant man. Often abbreviated to just “alpha.” Full Definition: In animal hierarchies, the Alpha Male is the most dominant, and typically the physically strongest member of the group. For example, in wolf packs, the “alpha wolf” is the strongest member of the pack, and is the leader of the group. This position of leadership is often achieved by killing or defeating the previous Alpha Male in combat. Alpha wolves have first access…

    Beta Male

    …ordinate or inferior in a social hierarchy, often used interchangeably with AFC or Wussy. Full Definition: Beta Male is a term that comes from social biology and ethnology. In animal hierarchies, there is often an alpha male who is the de facto leader of the group; he has first pick when it comes to food and mates. The Beta Male is usually second in line and will sometimes assume the role of alpha if the current alpha dies. In the seduction comm…

    Alpha Male Of Group (AMOG)

    Quick Definition: An aggressive male who is competing for the attention of the target. Or used as a verb, the act of taking attention away from another male so that he is no longer a threat. Also referred to as “Alpha Male Other Guy.” Full Definition: The AMOG may or may not be a BF of the target, but he asserts himself as leader of a group. If un-diffused, he will try to break the PUA’s game, usually with challenges to his material. Occasional…

    Alpha Male Other Guy (AMOG)

    Quick Definition: See the definition for Alpha Male Of Group. Related Terms: Alpha, Alpha Male Of Group, AK, AMOG Destroyer…

    Sexual Selection

    …k Definition: In Darwin’s own words, “the struggle between the individuals of one sex, generally the males, for the possession of the other sex.” Full Definition: In biology, females often prefer to mate with males that have external ornaments or males that defeat other males in competition. There are a few reasons these exist: It is hypothesized that these can plausibly arise because of an arbitrary female preference for some…

    The Warm Alpha

    …ith girls. We have already been mentioning the concept of being – or at least behaving as – an alpha male. As the alpha male is the leader of his group when studying social animals, it might make sense to think that you should impose your dominance over other males in front of girls. And in a sense this is correct, but let’s not jump to conclusions too fast here. Warm Alpha Behavior Being macho isn’t going to work to your…

    Pre-Approach Invitation, male Approach Invitation (pAImAI)

    AKA IAI (Inducement to Approach Invitation) Quick Definition: A PUA’s ability to display social proof and flash game as to initiate AI signals from the targets in the venue. Full Definition: There are many ways to initiate pAImAI and run with the resulting AIs. Usually, approaching less attractive girls who are not getting as much attention is a good way to start building social proof by locking-in and getting introductions to her friends…

    Male Pattern Blindness (MPB)

    Quick Definition: A condition which afflicts AFCs and even many PUAs, which makes them blind to the signals of interest that a woman is throwing at them. Full Definition: Recent psychological studies have shown that men are less perceptive than women of social cues, and, in pickup, this manifests itself as MPB. Women will often give every signal a man needs to make a successful close, but he will not notice them. Later on, he may finally realiz…

    Pickup Artist Pilgrimage

    …extremes of the PUA pilgrimage and how it relates to evolutionary biology in The Blueprint: One type of alpha male works on power and stability. He builds his castle and foundation, and becomes the leader his tribe. He obtains all the women within that social circle by building a foundation and his social network. Think Hugh Hefner. Playboy Mansion on MTV Cribs: The other type of alpha male is a traveler. He works on perfecting his art, his…

    Pre-selection

    …nique to MM; it has been studied extensively and observed by biologists in other species. Females tend to prefer males who have already been chosen by other females of their species. There are several biological and sexual selection reasons for this. First, the male must have some S&R value in order for other females to be interested in him. Thus, the presence of other females is an indicator of value. Second, pre-selection, among all the DHV…

    Beta Boy Friend (BBF)

    Quick Definition: A boyfriend of an HB who exhibits very few Alpha traits and is most often a beta male. Full Definition: Beta Boyfriends usually are not in control of the relationship, and the power remains with the woman. This is the case with many AFC relationships. BBFs can be with alpha females or just regular women who have sensed the male’s weakness and lack of sexual choice. This provides them with power in the relationship In many case…

    Partners Directory

    …bu, and other major cities, as well as personalized coaching and special speaking events. The High Status Male The High Status Male is all about helping men who have been cursed with social or romantic anxiety to overcome their deepest shame-based fears and find love and acceptance. Social Rockstar The blog of Brandon, who shares his tips and advice on overcoming social anxiery PUA Hub A great PUA site with tips and vid…

    Female Gurus

    PUA Community presents… FEMALE GURUS   For most of us guys, before we discovered the PUA Community, some of the…

    Congruence Test

    …sts are generally thrown out by women, as it is important for them to realize if they are sleeping with an alpha male or a beta male posing as an alpha male. Biologically, this distinction in sexual selection can affect her gene pool for the rest of her evolutionary life. Sometimes, a high value player may want to test the congruency of a girl, to make sure she is not a gold digger, totally crazy, or that she genuinely likes him. A congruence tes…

    Female PUA

    …hy guys can get used to being comfortable withe women in their presence They are better to look at than the best male PUAs When they demo and go out with you, the power of preselection is already triggered to ensure easier approaches and opens Cons Male PUAs argue that because they have never actually DONE a pickup from a guy’s POV, they will never understand the details and dynamics of leading and dominance that can only come from a &#82…

    Survival and Replication Value (S&R)

    …er replication value. Women have a high replication high, but lower survival value. Thus, approximately 70% of a male’s attraction is based on physical fitness and looks, for replication purposes, while a great balance (~70%) of a woman’s attraction triggers are based on emotions and long term characteristics. In Sperm Wars, Robin Baker details how women are genetically wired to mate with the most physically dominant male for the best…

    Warm Alpha

    …lead using positive characteristics. Full Definition: As PUAs, we are already aware of the concept of the alpha male. Alpha males are the leader of their group, and so it makes sense that AMOGs should impose their dominance over other males in front of girls. In some ways, this is correct. However, being macho isn’t always going to work. Because sometimes, to convey alpha-ness, we are reacting to an existing situation and the reaction is i…

    Permanent DHV

    …ng passion for a craft. These are permanent DHVs. One can argue that model good looks are also permanent DHVs. A male model who walks around is always DHV’ing girls with his good looks. However, the physical looks will fade, and a male model can turn of a girl with his lack of intelligence or character. A female model must try a lot harder to do so for casual sex, and can still easily turn a guy off who’s looking for an intimate relat…

    Validation

    AKA Social Validation Quick Definition: A feeling of being accepted and worthy within the larger social group . Full Definition: Validation is an important part of the social hierarchy and how each individual within a tribe receives feedback relative to their position within that tribe. One might argue that an alpha male is simply the member of the tribe that receives the most social validation. Experiments have shown that authority figures ten…

    Mastering Sex Game

    …PUAs) think about sex: First and foremost, Dominance is a mentality. You must internalize the beliefs that as a male you are inherently dominant, and as a female she is inherently submissive. This is both right and natural. Although she can never verbalize it, deep down she craves the fucking that only a dominant alpha male can give her. By dominating her in bed, you are not disrespecting her or doing anything wrong. You are giving her a gift of…

    The 10 Best Pick Up Artists of 2014

    …ties. Straying away from “pick up techniques”, his philosophy falls more into the line of understand male and female sexuality, and how to nurture the very nature of our male and female sexuality. In that sense, his philosophy is more like Zan, and his role more or a teacher than a technique-based pick up coach. His books have inspired men to reclaim their sexuality, and to gain a deeper understanding of what it means to be a man, as…

    Polarity / Sexual Polarity

    …riguing. Keep in mind, however, that despite high degrees of polarity the artists both retain the essence of the male and female traits, which reflects the true nature of who they really are. David Bowie Amy from Evanescence An example of strong female and male polarity can be found in celebrities Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie: Usage: Try to create a strong masculine polarity with your new look and move away from the “gay” vibe. Rela…

    Target-Rich/Target-Poor

    …of viable targets and sets within a given venue. Full Definition: A target-rich venue has a favorable female to male ratios, and females appear to be approachable. A target-poor venue usually has very few people, or a much higher male-to-female ratio. It is possible for a venue to have a lot of people, but no available targets, such as a couple’s swing dancing event. Generally, a higher female to male ratio ensures a target-rich environmen…


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