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  • Fluff

    Quick Definition: Small talk that has no significant meaning but fills the conversational space or need that occurs between seduction phases and bounces, or an extraction. Full Definition: Some amount of fluff talk is necessary for building comfort, as well as keeping a target’s logical brain from focusing too much during a bounce or extraction. Ideally, a PUA’s game should be tight enough to not require fluff talk; however sometime…

    Pre Lay Relaxation Mode (PLRM)

    …or not does not matter to him, the more likely his target will have sex with him. It is generally a bad idea to talk about sex at all at this point, instead using fluff talk and light kino to amp up the sexual tension. The point of PLRM is not to push for sex, but to create a comfortable atmosphere and transition smoothly into the bedroom. Notice how Anika and Hank are relaxed before sex. The PLRM can also happen while in bed, joking and playing…

    The Approach Mindset

    Hey, this is Bobby Rio from Make Small Talk Sexy… and today I wanted to talk to you about the idea of developing an “approach mindset.”I’ve been coaching a lot of guys recently, and one thing that keeps coming up is this idea of the “approach mindset.”  Sometimes this is referred to as being “in state” or “in the zone.”  And today I wanted to explore some ideas and concepts I’ve found u…

    Fire Gazing

    …long workday, a man needs about thirty minutes of fire-gazing time to recoup energies before he’s ready to talk. Most women, however, are ready to talk and want to talk immediately.” “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” ― Mark Twain If a man is stressed or otherwise “under pressure”, spending some fire gazing time in mediation or just enjoying a view can relieve him of his d…

    10 Sex Secrets Hot Girls Never Want You To Know

    Time to wake-up – this is real stuff I’m about to reveal that most guys don’t know. So here’s a…

    How To Pick Up A Shy Girl

    …said, yet you stay unaffected and continue to game. Shy girls won’t give you any of that. She will either talk to you or get shy and walk away. The average outgoing woman is intrigued to find out who you are when you first approach, the shy girl thinks how nerve-racking it is to talk to you. How to Get It Just because you may not be her type, doesn’t mean you can’t get along or have anything in common. Dull down your game because she won’…

    Social Exchange Propensity

    …e: Low Social Exchange Propensity venues – these are venues that naturally influence users to avoid social talk and interaction. Usually people are tired, or there is pressure that propels the users to want to be alone. Bathroom Stalls – no one wants to talk when taking a dump. Office Cubicles – depending on the height of the cubicle walls and corporate culture, work can be very lonely. Office workers get around this, but the n…


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