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  • Fluff

    Quick Definition: Small talk that has no significant meaning but fills the conversational space or need that occurs between seduction phases and bounces, or an extraction. Full Definition: Some amount of fluff talk is necessary for building comfort, as well as keeping a target’s logical brain from focusing too much during a bounce or extraction. Ideally, a PUA’s game should be tight enough to not require fluff talk; however sometime…

    Pre Lay Relaxation Mode (PLRM)

    …or not does not matter to him, the more likely his target will have sex with him. It is generally a bad idea to talk about sex at all at this point, instead using fluff talk and light kino to amp up the sexual tension. The point of PLRM is not to push for sex, but to create a comfortable atmosphere and transition smoothly into the bedroom. Notice how Anika and Hank are relaxed before sex. The PLRM can also happen while in bed, joking and playing…

    The Approach Mindset

    Hey, this is Bobby Rio from Make Small Talk Sexy… and today I wanted to talk to you about the idea of developing an “approach mindset.”I’ve been coaching a lot of guys recently, and one thing that keeps coming up is this idea of the “approach mindset.”  Sometimes this is referred to as being “in state” or “in the zone.”  And today I wanted to explore some ideas and concepts I’ve found u…

    Fire Gazing

    …long workday, a man needs about thirty minutes of fire-gazing time to recoup energies before he’s ready to talk. Most women, however, are ready to talk and want to talk immediately.” “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” ― Mark Twain If a man is stressed or otherwise “under pressure”, spending some fire gazing time in mediation or just enjoying a view can relieve him of his d…

    10 Sex Secrets Hot Girls Never Want You To Know

    Time to wake-up – this is real stuff I’m about to reveal that most guys don’t know. So here’s a…

    How To Pick Up A Shy Girl

    …said, yet you stay unaffected and continue to game. Shy girls won’t give you any of that. She will either talk to you or get shy and walk away. The average outgoing woman is intrigued to find out who you are when you first approach, the shy girl thinks how nerve-racking it is to talk to you. How to Get It Just because you may not be her type, doesn’t mean you can’t get along or have anything in common. Dull down your game because she won’…

    Social Exchange Propensity

    …e: Low Social Exchange Propensity venues – these are venues that naturally influence users to avoid social talk and interaction. Usually people are tired, or there is pressure that propels the users to want to be alone. Bathroom Stalls – no one wants to talk when taking a dump. Office Cubicles – depending on the height of the cubicle walls and corporate culture, work can be very lonely. Office workers get around this, but the n…

    Speed Follows Simplicity

    …artist. Always remember: “Talent hits a target no one else can hit; Genius hits a target no one else can see” I talk about all of this and more in a guide I’m working on for guys  who want the practical ways to apply these four things and to be able to do crazy things. I’ll talk about how to pickup women without talking, how to pick up women using your tongue from 2 meters away and about validation, confidence and approach anxiety among other th…

    3 Elements to Draw a Woman Into Your World

    …women want men, and a man is someone who can clearly and unashamedly pursue what he wants out of life.  I do not talk to women just to practice approaching.  I will talk to a woman who, for one reason or another, seems interesting or attractive to me.  Are they projecting a positive energy and vibe?  Or maybe they’re actresses that are relaxing after their show.  Or we made accidental eye contact in a store and she smiled instead of flinchi…

    7 Most Common Mistakes Intermediate PUAs STILL make!

    …stly speak too softly. There are many books and resources on voice training. Use it. For starters: slowing down, talking louder, and talking with more authority will increase a PUA’s game by tenfold when all of his other technical issues are sorted out (body language, style, eye contact). It is amazing how many PUAs focus on routines and words, when most of what they communicate is already done via their body language and tonality alone: 5…

    The Warm Alpha

    …ing on what type of person you are the following could happen: Cold beta: you give up and leave. Warm beta: you talk to him as well as the girls, and would leave him alone if you got the girl and keep talking to the others. Cold alpha: you become aggressive towards him, trying to display your alpha male status over him in an obvious way. Warm alpha: you steal the girls attention by being more fun and interesting, are always the one guiding the c…

    Partners Directory

    …ce The site of social dynamics expert Lady Killa, who shares his advice on women and dating. Make Small Talk Sexy A new blog by Bobby Rio that teaches you how to make small talk sexy and attractive instead of boring and dull. Dating Tips & Relationship Advice Dating tips and relationship from Love Systems Instructor Daxx. EntropyPUA The blog of Entropy, pickup artist and dating coach Simple Seduction The…

    A new term for leading women

    …ad. You suggest a casual drink outside the office, where you can progress from there. “How do I get her to talk after we’ve exchanged names at the bar?” You lead. You talk about yourself so she can start relating to you, which will help her to open up. You also lead by finding out her logistics, which will make her feel more comfortable talking to you. (Hmm, is “logistics” jargon? If so, I do use that one.) “Ho…

    60 years of challenge

    …Contact: who is going to look away first Introduction: who pulls their hand away first Silence: who gives in and talks first Resistance: who tries to diffuse the awkward moment first Who breaks down and needs to have a talk about “what is going on” first Lets look at a few subtle ways guys reduce the sexual tension in their interactions with women: Opening & Silence The reduction of tension starts right away. Most guys will use a…

    Bobby Rio

    Real Name: Unknown Affiliation: Make Small Talk Sexy, TSB Magazine Website: http://tsbmag.com Bobby Rio is a worldwide traveler and teacher of all things necessary to excel in the nature of the pickup.  Although he prefers locales south of the equator, his aim is to reach every corner of the world to ensure that every man has the tools necessary to fend for himself in a complex society of social dynamics.  He has authored or contributed to an im…

    The 7 Most Flagrant Examples of Bad Pickup Jargon

    Guest post by David BlackYou’ve most likely experienced some examples of jargon out there in the ‘how to get a girl‘ realm. Sometimes it can seem that some dudes try to come up with the most amazing sounding terms just for the hell of it. Don’t get me wrong, jargon has it’s place, but sometimes they fly in the face of simple, understandable principles, and just compound confusion. This is one of my pet peeves.Let&#8…

    The New Artist Guide

    Welcome to PUA Lingo’s New Artist Guide Skip to Q&A Section *Before you get started in learning game, download the…

    Handling Shit Tests and Building Attraction

    …e that don’t know, these ‘tests’ are questions that girls will throw at us to see if we walk the walk as well as talk the talk. The reason girls do this is because a lot of guys can be confident on the approach and play a good poker face the whole way through the interaction, but later down the line the cracks start to show and the confident guy she thought he was is actually not that guy at all. So girls throw these tests at us to separate the m…

    Top 10 PUAs of 2010

    …ually has infield footage to back up his claims.” When it comes to game, plenty of “gurus” can talk the talk, but not as many can walk the walk, and fewer still can prove it. Tyler Durden falls into the latter category. 8) Neil Strauss Neil Strauss is one guy I wasn’t expecting to see on our list this year, since he hasn’t been too active in the community lately, although his company, The Stylelife Academy, contin…

    How to hypnotize hot girls for Pick Up Artists

    …ave a presence about themselves that you can feel within yourself. Perhaps they are standing in the same way, or talking in the same beat, and tone.  – sure you might say I’m talking about rapport, I don’t think you can fake rapport, you really need to feel the emotions that someone else feels, and lose yourself within them before you can connect to them. Often on dance floors, the music might progress to a peak, or it might be a moment where eve…

    How to Pick Up Girls

    …ause they never approach in the first place. Don’t reject yourself before you even give the girl a chance to! 3. Talk Slow And Calm Don’t rush to get your words out or you will give her the impression that you are nervous. Instead, think of what a cool and calm celebrity would sound like. Would they rush to get their words out? Would they talk to quietly to be heard? No! So neither should you. 4. What To Say (Opener) Don’t kid yourself, if you…

    TwentySix (Barry Kirkey)

    …urrent events, and often pokes fun at the seduction community and its so-called “gurus”. He likes to talk with a gay lisp as part of his act. TwentySix Quotes I do a lot of things with this cell phone, and it doesn’t even work.  I just like to talk into it and pretend that I’m the man, especially if I feel uncomfortable at a club. Your cell phone is your best wingman. Some AFC dudes who just joined this site are probabl…

    Jealous Girlfriend Opinion Opener

    …that? Girl: [Girl responds.] PUA: Yeah, they’re just friends. There’s nothing else is going on. They talk like once a week at most. Girl: I think its fine / I don’t think they should be talking / whatever [Roll off a bit, then continue the routine.] PUA: Okay, now let’s say that he has a drawer in his apartment. And in that drawer he keeps all of his old letters and pictures.  Some of the letters are from his ex’es,…

    Sexual Hook Point

    …Interesting” Her: “what!?” PUA: “we would not get along” PUA: “I can’t talk to you right now. You’re too tall/beautiful/foreign/blonde/smart/old/young “Are your parents divorced? Intesresting. You can go now” 2) Teaching her something interesting Talk about anything, passionately Maker her laugh. Triggers a emotional response Playful temperament, not mean Fully commit to it Usage: Did…

    Buzz

    Quick Definition: When people talk about you (usually positively) when you are not there. Full Definition: Taken from the idea of “street value,” Buzz is the idea that, the more influence a person has, the more people talk about him when he is not around. Buzz is the energy and DHV generated automatically without the PUA constantly being there. Buzz also assists with pre-approved accomplished introductions in the case where a girl within a soci…


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