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  • Banter

    …Definition: A manner of communication that is witty and fun, often involving playful teasing. Full Definition: Banter is a type of communication that is often silly and meaningless. Its sole purpose is to create a fun experience with someone else. Banter creates a playful state so that the conversations do not turn into a boring interview. Banter often involves role playing, role reversal, prizing, and an overall little boy vs. little girl atti…

    Situational Opener

    …hat it is usually unique and something that is made up on the spot, rather than being pre-scripted. Situational openers are usually used by advocates of Natural Game, who frown on the use of scripted material as being inauthentic. Situational openers include a wide category of openers and can vary depending on the situation. A common situational opener is the compliment opener, where the pick up artist makes a genuine compliment about a woman i…

    Text Openers

    Quick Definition: A smart and memorable text that DHVs the PUA when he first contacts the target via text messaging. Full Definition: A great text opener is another DHV or comfort builder in the overall scheme of things. Without proper game in the beginning, a good text opener is hard to recovery from actual bad face to face game. Guys often think good text game can solve the problem, however 90% of the time it is because the initial interact…

    How to Approach Women

    …er than just flat out looks. All of these are going to create a conversation easily and more readily than the LL openers, but still you aren’t getting much out of attraction just with these openers. That is where the Big Daddy of openers come into play. The HH openers are direct, Blow me or Blow me out mindset. “Hey, you are cute, let’s go bone.” Simple, eloquent,  but almost distasteful for most of the American populatio…

    Canned Opener

    …and practiced opener that a PUA uses repeatedly to open sets and start an interaction. Full Definition: Canned openers are field tested lines and routines that can be used to get a PUA into set. Canned openers are most often used by newbies just getting started in the game, who often do not know what to say to begin a conversation with an attractive woman. Canned routines can be likened to “pickup lines” in popular culture, although…

    The Truth About Routines by DJ Fuji

    …in a set. They are designed to teach you storytelling. Any result you get from their use is secondary. Likewise, banter is designed to teach you humor and playfulness. Push-pull is designed to teach you to be a challenge and to not be predictable and boring. Openers are designed to teach you to engage people and hold court in groups. Oftentimes these routines can get us better results infield, but sometimes they do not. Sometimes they can intenti…

    Indirect Opener

    Quick Definition: An opener that is used without revealing the PUA’s true intent. Opinion openers, for example, are indirect openers. Full Definition: The objective of the indirect opener is to first get the target’s attention and then transition into a more natural topic off the opener. Indirect openers work because most people are open to have conversations with strangers and generally will not reject the PUA’s approach u…

    Opener

    …f wanting to know when a stranger might leave. Also adds value via cat string theory (you may leave at any time) Openers alone are not enough, once you open, it is important to demonstrate value via game. Direct openers have a higher chance of failure, but also higher rewards. Naturals, more good looking PUAs can get away with this, or PUAs who use GM style. Most AFCs use direct game, but at a very low skill level. A higher natural/direct game m…

    Valentines Day Openers

    “Hey… Did you get my card?? You can deliver this with a big jokey smile, or with over-the-top conspiritorial seriousness. Sidle up to her and whisper with a wink, or shout across the crowded bar to her. She’ll normally laugh and say yes – “what about the chocolates?” – she’ll agree – “and flowers, did you like them?” Optional: “You liked them? That’s cool, not all girls like Triffids” If she says no, say “Are you sure? It was in a 4-foot high pi…

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    Direct Opener

    …ion: An opening line or statement that conveys direct interest in the target or set.   Full Definition: Direct openers can be used by PUAs to great effect. Direct openers work best when the PUA already has a higher perceived value than the girl and when the girl is already attracted to the PUA. On the other hand, AFCs use direct openers by giving away all of their value, such as, “Did you bruise your wings when you fell from heaven?R…

    Kino Opener

    …o fall for direct game are better qualified for a pull and therefore rewarded handsomely for their efforts. Kino Openers can also be non-sexual but have a strong lead and frame. For example, slowly putting your hand on her shoulder and turning her around. Or, using the “claw” technique in a high energy club to grab a girl (takes some practice). Newbies who use kino openers can get bad reactions, as not every girl is used to having st…

    The Truth About Routines

    …in a set. They are designed to teach you storytelling. Any result you get from their use is secondary. Likewise, banter is designed to teach you humor and playfulness. Push-pull is designed to teach you to be a challenge and to not be predictable and boring. Openers are designed to teach you to engage people and hold court in groups. Oftentimes these routines can get us better results infield, but sometimes they do not. Sometimes they can intenti…

    She’s Six Steps Away Review

    …the steps put into action, and to see how simple it can be to approach a woman you don’t know. Most of the openers are quite functional, meaning the only purpose they hold is to begin a conversation. In terms of wanting to actually pick women up, I wouldn’t recommend most of these openers. It also gets a bit tedious hearing the same few openers used repeatedly. There are also some bonus interviews that make up this course. They featur…

    Compliment Opener

    Quick Definition: A sincere and unique compliment used to start a conversation with a girl of the PUA’s interest. Full Definition: Compliment openers are an important component of natural and direct game. Rather than opening with a scripted line, a PUA using a compliment opener delivers a sincere compliment as a way of starting a conversation with a girl. Two of the most important components of a compliment opener are that they must be un…

    Commonality

    …greeing with everything she says, a PUA should also build tension into the interaction with push and pull, BHRR, banter and reward and relate to make her feel like these commonalities are hard-won. A combination of MM’s cat string theory and JM’s banter works wonders, and the commonalities discovered will be valued a lot more by her because of it. Example of building commonality via MM: HB: “I was born in Italy.” PUA: R…

    Two-Part Kiss Opener

    …s out to a bar… and gets drunk and makes out with a GIRL for fun, is it cheating?Yeah, I know, new opinion openers are getting tired. But there IS a hole in opinion openers, and this one fills it. The problem is that the most commonly used opinion openers (jealous girlfriend, david bowie, who lies more, etc) appeal mostly to women. And most of us are approaching mixed sets. So this new one, which I’ve been using consistently for month…

    Blow Out Opener

    …putting yourself on the line personally. When used in conjunction with a venue change or warm up sets, Blow Out Openers are great for getting over AA. Sometimes, because of the audacity of the opener itself, the PUA can get positive responses to a Blow Out Opener that was intended to garner rejection. He can then attempt to push the envelope further or take the set as a good set. Different types of blow out openers include: Vulgar and forward: &…

    Text to Sex Review (ABCs of Attraction)

    Product Name Text To Sex Author JT Tran (Asian Playboy) and Gareth Jones Company Affiliation ABCs of Attraction Release Date December 2011 Skill Level Intermediate to Advanced Phone & Text Game Rating Product and content quality – 24/25 Innovation of material – 23/25 Application in field – 24/25 Value for money – 17/25 Total Score 88/100 (B+)/100 (based on 1 review) Price $297 Format Online Membership Site Reviewed By Vince Lin A…

    Cocky & Funny (C&F)

    Quick Definition: An attitude that is a mix of cockiness (confidence) and a sense of humor, modeled from the behavior of typical “bad boys.” Full Definition: PUAs are Cocky & Funny because it generates attraction in a woman. The cocky part of the equation involves appearing confident, and even a little sarcastic, while the funny part balances out the cockiness with humor and rapport. Combined together, C&F results in flirty…

    Warm-Up Set

    Quick Definition: The first few sets that a PUA approaches when he goes sarging, which gets him into a social mode. Full Definition: Warm-up sets are a helpful tool for getting a PUA into state. It is often difficult for people to get into a fun, party atmosphere, especially if one works in a boring 9-5 office job. Warm-up sets help to break the PUA out of his office worker mentality and get him into a playful and social mode. Typically, PUAs…

    Bait, Hook, Reel, Release (BHRR)

    Quick Definition: A concept from Mystery best used during A3 (Qualification) and Comfort game to bait the woman to DHV herself to the artist and invest in him by asking genuine questions, which the artist can then reward her for. Full Definition: The BHRR metaphor can be found in many different areas of game theory and psychology. It was officially coined by Mystery in The Venusian Arts Handbook. This term relates to the general theory of seduc…

    Push-Pull

    Quick Definition: A sense of momentum between two people, at times moving forward with an interaction, and at times moving back a little. Push and pull describes the unpredictability and spontaneity of seduction. Full Definition: Romantic comedies and dramas tend to have great push and pull story lines. The writers tug at your heartstrings, focusing on things almost lost and could be lost. In seduction, push-pull is a concept that relates clo…

    Mini Cold Read (MCR)

    Quick Definition: A “mini” version of a cold read, usually involving a sentence or two about framing the girl’s innate bad/sexy/good behavior. Full Definition: MCRs are powerful for banter and attraction game. Be careful about using them during comfort, as they could break rapport. Thus, use it with calibration to BHRR and push and pull. Examples of MCRs: “You’re a bad girl. My mother warned me about girls like yo…

    The Approach Mindset

    Hey, this is Bobby Rio from Make Small Talk Sexy… and today I wanted to talk to you about the idea of developing an “approach mindset.”I’ve been coaching a lot of guys recently, and one thing that keeps coming up is this idea of the “approach mindset.”  Sometimes this is referred to as being “in state” or “in the zone.”  And today I wanted to explore some ideas and concepts I’ve found u…


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