Think of it like this:

Sarcasm is often a topic which those with Autism (in general) have a hard time recognizing. Children with Autism often take the sarcastic statements literally “in the moment” only reflecting afterwards that the statements “don’t make sense.” This failure to recognize the social cues leads to literal interpretations of the statement, thus “failing to see the humor,” or “not getting the joke.”

Another key area is the inability to recognize “turn taking,” in the sense that you likely don’t recognize that others are patiently waiting, or signaling that it is “their turn.” Again, in retrospect you will likely re-process the event, and then react accordingly after cognitively processing the event after it has occurred.

Adults, and teenagers with Autism will learn these skills later in life through various experiences, but only if they have had the social training to do so. Others may never learn them, as the brain may lack the physical mechanisms to process these neuronal events (i.e. smaller prefrontal cortex, overactive amygdala).

Ask yourself this:

Have friends/family ever been frustrated with you over “not sharing?”

Do your peers seem to laugh at statements you don’t see as being funny (though not offensive)?

Have people ever said, you take things too literally?

If so, then you may be missing the social cues that you’re parents are referring to.

Hope that helps!