Quick Definition: Signals that are given, usually consciously during a social interaction, that communicate a person’s thoughts or expected actions at certain intervals of a group’s activity.
Social cues help us understand other people better and facilitate non-verbal communication. A well known social cue, for example, is to introduce new members to existing group members. Thus, Mystery’s “Introduce me. It is the polite thing to do” leverages the expectations of this social cue. Examples of an event with many social cues is at a dinner party, where the host makes a toast, guests sit down and wait to start eating when the host does, etc. These are all part of the commonly known and accepted social cues that govern how an event or group of people should behave in certain situations.
Understanding social cues shows social intelligence, but a complete adherence to them can also express conformity. Thus, the most important thing for a PUA is to be aware of social cues and make his own decisions of whether or not to follow them. Social cues can also differ greatly from country to country. In Indonesia, for example, it is extremely disrespectful to touch someone else with your left hand because it is commonly believed that the left hand is also the hand that uses toilet paper to clean the person’s behind.
Do you notice the social cues we got to politely leave from that cliquish group of people?
Source: Behavioral Psychology
Posted by Vince Lin on December 27, 2008