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Quick Definition: A stereotype or type of man whom some women find naturally sexually attractive.
Full Definition:
Sexual stereotypes are images from popular culture that are presented as being sexually desirable. Women who grow up being exposed to certain sexual stereotypes will often feel an unconscious attraction towards men who fit into that stereotype.
For example, one common sexual stereotype is the rock star. A rockstar is someone who embodies many attractive qualities to women, as well as the masses. Rockstars bare their souls on stage, and their songs, clothes, and lifestyle is an expression of who they are. Rockstars take risks, are unpredictable, and are dangerous. Generally, rockstars are famous and are known for having a large following of groupies (pre-selection), of being a world traveler, and of having high social value (assumed fame and wealth).
Axel Rose on stage:
Rockstars can come from all walks of life, not just on stage. The reason rockstars and other sexual stereotypes for men and women are attractive and interesting, is becasue they are based off of a strong identity. Whether that identity was developed over time or innate in that person does not matter, for it has become a part of who they are.
Even though a PUA may not be a rock star, he can still take advantage of that sexual stereotype by dressing and behaving like one. If he is congruent with his identity, women who are attracted to the rockstar “type” will feel attraction for them even before he has opened his mouth, because he fits into their blueprint of an attractive man.
Other common sexual stereotypes include biker, rapper, business man, and even construction worker. A PUA would do well to keep these different stereotypes in mind while putting together his avatar, and pick the one that he is most comfortable with. By modeling a sexual stereotype, a PUA can receive instant attraction from women who are attracted to that type.
For example, just in the realm of “rockstars” alone, the avatar can extend beyond that of the musician rockstar to encompass:
PUA Rockstars...
... Actor rockstars
Magician rockstars...
and female rockstars...
Similar sexual stereotypes exist for women as well. Common sexual stereotypes for women include strippers, school girls, and the “girl next door” types, and just as with women, some men are naturally attracted to certain types of girls, based on cultural upbringing.
It is important to keep in mind, however, that sexual stereotypes are polarizing. For example, though some women may be very attracted to punk rock types, other women may have just the opposite reaction by only responding positively to the smart, professor type men. Women and men are attracted to different stereotypes, so it is important to choose an identity that matches the desired stereotype of the artist’s ideal mate, while remaining congruent to the artist’s core identity.
Usage:
The modern teen vampire has become a popular sexual stereotype in the media these days
Related Terms: Avatar, Bad Boy, Blueprint, Identity, Congruence, Alpha, Sexual Selection, Vibe
Source: Brad P.
Related Links:
- Brad P’s Fashion Bible – The definitive guide to sexual stereotyping and men’s style (affiliate link)
The Language of Style – Kinowear article on how to take advantage of archetypes to improve your look.
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one of my favorite definitions.
Don’t forget the International Playboy. Like your humble author.
Rockstars are chimps.
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Good stuff. ‘Modeling a sexual stereotype, a PUA can receive instant attraction from women who are attracted to that type.’ Great point to make and I am sure would work. But why model it when you could become it. Example – Don’t act like a biker. Buy a motorbike and become a biker
However you definitely need to be congruent with your own natural character. I would not want the hassle of having to be a certain stereotype just to get laid if it is not congruent with my character. Meaning if I want to be a biker it’s because I want to buy a bike and go out riding. Not because it will help me to meet women.
Never try to be someone else. Be yourself and make the most of what you have. Everyone has the ability to attract women on their own merit. Trust me, in the long run you will be much happier.
Good point. I think it’s helpful, especially when you’re just starting to develop a personal style, to model people who already have an attractive look. Too many guys are stuck wearing t-shirts and jeans, and it’s important to have sexy stereotypes to model.
I agree you shouldn’t try to fake anything, and should model stereotypes that are congruent with yourself, whether that’s a rocker or biker, or chic nerd or business man. There’s a bit of chicken or egg when it comes to congruence, though– sometimes you have to wear a look for a while before you become congruent with it. There’s usually a short period of discomfort when you step outside of your regular fashion boundaries.
That is a good point about the ‘chicken or egg’ as you so nicely put it
. When I was younger I started learning magic. I would just perform in a t-shirt and jeans. Thing is I new I wanted to have that unique apperance about me that would add to my performance. However back then I did not have the confidence to do it.
When I got older and had worked on my confidence/inner mindset, I decided to buy a few rings, wrist band, necklaces etc. I bought clothes that were more congruent with my character, but slightly outside my comfort zone.
You are right. I felt uncomfortable when I first ventured out into the real world. However I knew it was what I wanted and so just went for it. Now I feel completely comfortable. I could not tell you if it makes a difference to the girls when I talk to them but it makes a difference to me. My mind set is better because I feel so much more comfortable with myself.
The point being: Don’t be afraid to try something new if it is really what you want and congruent with your natural character.