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LMR is an acronym for Last Minute Resistance. This term describes the feelings a woman goes through once she is in a seduction location and resists a man’s attempts at physical escalation. This is often considered to be part of her ASD or Anti-Slut Defense, but the two terms of not interchangable.
ASD refers to the social layer of a woman’s defense system. A woman doesn’t want to appear easy or slutty and will resist sexual advances even when she is attracted to a man in order to protect her reputation.
LMR, on the other hand, is the feeling she gets like she’s betting on the house. It’s a physical, subconscious emotion, and she can’t always control it. This experience is often lamented by pickup artists and men around the world and solutions to this problem are often sought after.
For example, a woman might come home with a guy she met at the club and may even make out with him, but resist when it comes to taking off her panties or bra. They can even both be naked in his bed, but she might still say that she doesn’t want to have sex.
ASD is believed to be a response to societal conditioning. Most societies consider a woman who frequently has sex a slut. In the case of ASD this social conditioning overwhelms her biological desire to enjoy physical pleasure.
Other PUAs believe that the cause of LMR (as opposed to ASD) is more biological. For example, Mystery, who is one of the first to coin the term, describes LMR as a biological response that causes a woman to freeze up before having sex. Mystery claims that this response is universal, and that it evolved because of the evolutionary high stakes of having sex with a man, and because of the threat of potentially becoming pregnant and vulnerable. It feels, according to a female friend of Mystery, “Like you are betting the house on red and the roulette table is spinning.”
Whatever the cause of LMR, handling it often starts early in the interaction, using time-bridging, comfort building, and slowing down the interaction to assure the woman that the PUA is interested in more than just sex, and that he will stick around after the physical act. Other ways of dealing with LMR include using freeze-outs, making a woman feel comfortable, and assuring her that her reputation will not be affected.
Just as a man feels anxiety before approaching a woman, a woman feels a similar anxiety before she agrees to sex. Most women want to describe the sexual encounter as “one thing led to another” or “it just happened.” For this reason, asking women directly to have sex will often lead to ASD. It is also important to avoid state breaks when in the final phases of seduction and transition smoothly to sex so as not to give her an opportunity to interrupt.
Mystery gets LMR‘d
I hit some LMR when I tried to take off her skirt, so I slowed my escalation down a little until she felt comfortable.
Contributed By: Paladin
- 5 Easy Ways To Overcome LMR – From Johnny Wolf
- Last Minute Resistance – Love Systems interview on getting past LMR
- The Czech Out Girl – A real life example of LMR from a field report
- The 6 Kinds of LMR and how to Overcome them
Posted by Vince Lin on December 21, 2008