Boyfriend Destroyer (BFD)

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Quick Definition:

A PUA routine that is used to get a woman to leave her boyfriend for the pickup artist.

BF Destroyers can be short term, such as a gambit, or longer term, such as a pattern of behavior. Short term routines for BF Destroyers range from respectful and naughty to outright malicious. Use of BF Destroyers depends on the situation and the PUA’s morality scale

Zan’s approach, for example is more zen-like:

PUA: “So Amanda. Would you like to go riding with me tomorrow?”

HB: “I have a boyfriend”

PUA: “That’s not what I asked. Do you feel like going riding with me tomorrow?”

HB: “Hm…..yes, but… I have a boyfriend”

PUA: “We will be discreet. I promise. I’ll pick you up at 8″.

It can also take the form of comedy:

HB: I have a boyfriend

PUA: Man I have only known you for a bit and you’re already telling me your problems.

Or a Neg disqualifier:

HB: I have a boyfriend

PUA: Who said I was ever attracted to you in the first place? Why are you telling me you have a boyfriend? You have a “I am too pretty” complex, in which you think ever guy that talks to you wants you sooooo bad. [Smile] Actually, I just wanted you to buy me a drink.

It can also take form in irrelevance/ignorance:

HB: I have a boyfriend

PUA: (ignores previous comment): So what is your favorite flavor of ice cream?

HB: What? I have a boyfriend

PUA: That’s great. Congratulations. Did I ever tell you that story about being in a safari in Africa? (Stack forward)

More malicious BFDs work by getting the target to elicit negative values about her boyfriend. Bad mouthing her boyfriend will only lower the PUA’s value and make her defensive, so it is important to steer the conversation in a way that it is the target who brings up all the negative things about the BF. At this point, the artist can pretend to defend her BF, which will encourage her to come up with more reasons for why she doesn’t like him, and subtly DHV yourself to show that you are the better choice.

Usage:

She seemed like she was in an unhappy relationship, so I used a BFD pattern to get her to leave the venue with me.

Source: Tyler Durden, Zan

Related Links:

• How to Destroy the Boyfriend - Solid article on how to deal with women with BFs

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