Comments on: Approach Anxiety (AA)

By: kaide73

kaide73 — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 17:23:22 +0000

Pardon my English. It is ”Stand-up comedy”.

By: kaide73

kaide73 — Mon, 14 Jun 2010 05:47:18 +0000

I think this mind-trick alleviates my AA very much: I just think about these facts sometimes and especially right before I approach: One of my hobbies is collecting autographs of celebrities. It has never been difficult for me to go to some celebrity and ask his or her autograph. Celebrities are just people, after all. So, why on earth it would be any more difficult to go to some girl and start talking to her? Of course, I also need to have some opener and other routines in my mind, so I really have something to say.

Also participating storytelling-night (AKA Cuentacuentos) is good thing: I learn to perform my story I am going to use during storytelling phase of my pickup. On the other hand, if I really dare to tell my stories or otherwise perform in front of audience, then talking in front of some girl is just a piece of cake.

BTW I have heard, that also doing stand-up comic as hobby for a while is good for learning pickup, but I haven’t done it, yet.

By: Johny

Johny — Sun, 02 May 2010 08:43:42 +0000

I did approach a couple of women with my friends this couple of days and it’s easier to approach when you are with your friends it’s more exciting and a lot more fun.Right now i agree with you if we lose the fear of approaching then it wont be interesting and exciting it will be boring

By: Approach Anxiety Destroyer

Approach Anxiety Destroyer — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:26:22 +0000

I find just automatically saying hi to anyone that gets within 3 feet of me reduces my approach anxiety over time! Great Article!!

By: Chris @ SeductionHQ

Chris @ SeductionHQ — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 06:42:41 +0000

Yeah… it can be pretty tough, but you can improve the results of your approaches by a lot. This will help you build approach confidence, which will eventually help you get rid of approach anxiety for good.

By: Matrix

Matrix — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 03:46:46 +0000

yeah, AA is rooted in biological evolution. Our emotional circuitry could not keep up with the speed of societal evolution

By: Michael

Michael — Sun, 03 Jan 2010 09:30:31 +0000

yeah I had the hardest time figuring out why i trip balls when i approach girls, even though naturally i’m very confident approaching anyone that i dont have the intent of dating.

By: alphawolf

alphawolf — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 19:36:32 +0000

Yes. In the tribal communities, it means social suicide, which results in genetic suicide. This is why for some guys, approaching a HB is harder than, say, jumping into a steel cage with sharks swimming around in the water. Things have since changed, we no longer live in 50 people tribes, there are millions of girls everywhere, so this fear, as real as it is, is illogical.

By: AFC

AFC — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 17:19:33 +0000

“Nearly every man has a fear of making the initial approach. This fear is often attributed to an evolutionary survival mechanism that arose from living in tribal communities of less than 50 people where approaching the wrong woman could mean genetic suicide.”

As in getting killed for it or something?