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Anti-Slut Defense (ASD)


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Quick Definition: Women’s internal mechanism to create plausible deniability before sex with a new man. It ensures that she doesn’t appear (to herself and others) that she’s too easily seduced.


Full Definition:

ASD is a conscious or unconscious process that women, especially younger women, go through to avoid the perception of being “slutty” or “too easy.” Women will often go out of their way to portray themselves as “nice girls,” even going so far as to proclaim indifference or even aversion to sex, when in fact the opposite is true. AFCs will often take such proclamations at face value, instead of considering the sub-communication. This leads to frustration for both parties.

Examples of ASD include women emphasizing the romantic aspects of a relationship, while downplaying the sex; underestimating the number of sexual partners they’ve had in the past; or making statements like “I don’t usually do this!” to maintain the image that they are good girls.

Before sex, anti-slut defense often manifests as token resistance put up by the woman to demonstrate that they resisted the sexual advances, which helps absolve them of their guilt of sex, which originates mostly from social programming. Post-sex ASD often involves justifications for the sex act: “It just happened,” “he wouldn’t give up,” “I was really drunk,” etc. PUAs should take this tendency of women into consideration, and make sex as easy for her as possible by taking the lead and responsibility for sex, and providing her with convenient excuses for sleeping with them.

Older and more experienced women (such as cougars) are often more comfortable with their sexuality, and less concerned with others’ perception of them. They will put up less of an ASD facade, although most will maintain some pretense for respectability’s sake.

It is important to note that ASD is mostly socially constructed. It is the “social” layer of perception and the consequences of being perceived as slutty. Mystery explains:

“ASD and LMR. Isn’t it funny how we have all these acronyms? And who’s to say what’s the official term? These two words simply refer to two different patterns. ASD is the plausible deniability a woman needs to protect herself. Her social radar. She enjoys sex, but wants to protect herself from social repercussions of her behavior. ASD, is a natural, biological trigger in a woman’s body, designed to protect her from bearing the child of a man who’s not worthy of her.”

Funny scene from Sex and The City where Charlotte has a moment of candidness and breaking society’s “rules”:

Usage:

She was pretty inexperienced, so she had a serious case of ASD, but I was able to plough through for the close.


Related Terms: LMR, Token Resistance, Social Pressure, Bitch Shield, Social Conditioning, Social Value, Subcommunication, Framing

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Posted by on November 20, 2008

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17 Comments

  • Chris

    I want a lay

  • Get out there, and meet some women. The night is still young! ;)

  • Unless you’re going for a SNL, or you haven’t built any comfort then ASD shouldn’t be a problem

  • Good overview, and I agree with the above poster. If you are feeling ASD then you definitely have not built up enough comfort.

    However, the same can happen with an extremely religious or wholesome girl.

  • Madeline

    This is disgusting. Get a life you rapists.

  • Mark Purse

    Thanks for the post, you are right, i didn’t know it called ASD… thanks for sharing :)

  • lol @madeline

  • Noah

    HAHAH madeline you are funny

  • MadeMyDay

    “This is disgusting. Get a life you rapists.”

    LMFAO

    It’s worse than that. They’re the most weak-minded, pathetic little c_nts you ever came across. They willingly hand over their hard earned cash to other men in some misguided belief that it’s going to make them more attractive or in some way not mega creepy. They’re practically pulling their trousers down and letting these guys do them up the bum. Actually, the way that they talk breathlessly about other ‘legendary’ PUAs is ironically kind of gay. I think secretly they just want to get down on their knees and suck their cocks. What a f-cking cult…

  • @MADEMYDAY
    well, i think you do have a point there but these guys if they can’t do anything with their looks, at least they have someone to talk to about their personality.

    its hard to go to your friends about this kind of thing, or a stranger. so i guess this is kinda the real world hitch all though it seems skeptical but as long as no one gets hurt in the process and guys turn out to be more confident, i don’t see the problem. its like a win win.

    i think us girls just get offended and defensive because this website makes it look like that we’re just objects to be won over or challenges to defeat LOL, and we are all being classified into an unflattering lump. But there are female pick up artists as well so. Eh.

  • RacerX

    @madeline you are brainless. get a dictionary and look up the word rape. I have never heard anyone talk about forcing them to do something they didnt want.

    @mademyday. Here is a guy reading all of this material and learning everything he can about them. Why would he waste his time. lol This guy most likely can not even afford the seminars. He has so little confidence in himself that he has to tear people down. He is trying to use anger to mask his deep rooted homosexual tendencies. Look how he describes the the Puas and homosexual acts in such detail. See a doctor mademyday. its 2011. you can let go of your anger and come out of the closet. lol

  • Shadow

    I have a question here… I get almost always the attention of girls but only to that point (glances, prolonged eye contact). I always keep wondering what happen with them later, because I don’t make any subtle movement and I can’t get much closer to them.

  • @Racer x; Rape….?

    It is deffo not consensual sex when a guy has manipulated your psychological defenses with false BS…. Unless she has requested exactly that.

    The difference is knowing when she is requesting it or not… and at most times.. if she is she will in no uncertain terms let you know.

    I love it when a woman asks…. when I have been disciplined enough to wait and earn her interest in an honest way.

  • Abby

    I like you, Casey.

  • Jonathon

    So basically, if you aren’t dishonest, you’re not a rapist.

    That means every guy in history is a rapist.

  • Abby

    Jonathon, you’re not making sense. Your logic is like saying that if someone does not eat at McDonald’s they are not fat, and since everyone eats at McDonald’s (assuming it were true) everyone is fat. I think what you’re trying to say is that if someone IS dishonest they are a rapist, and since everyone is dishonest everyone is a rapist. If you lie in order to get someone to have sex with you, that is at the very least highly immoral and at most rape – it’s called rape by deception (or rape by fraud). I believe the majority of jurisdictions don’t recognize it, which is not surprising given the often outdated and ill-informed nature of sex laws.

  • Brian

    As long as the woman is attracted to you and down for anything then you should be fine.

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