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Guest Article written by Robert King from http://www.puamethod.com
The most important part of the Direct Street Approach is the initial approach itself. All of the PUA’s value is carried in his sub communications and any genetic value the PUA may take into the approach. With this approach there is no “warming up the room”, “social proofing” or need to demonstrate any social value before the approach. If you have fairly good genetics and you can learn to approach confidently then this approach will be ideal for you. It is quick, direct and within just a couple of hours you can get very solid numbers from some beautiful women.
Example of a Kiss Close in the park:
During the approach, running up to the woman from behind is less threatening than if it was to be done towards her front. The PUA should just appear out of nowhere but in a way that doesn’t startle her. The motion should be fluid and it should match the woman’s energy levels. If the woman is walking fast then more room should be left. A rule of thumb is: if she is walking slow then leave 1.5 meters and if she is walking fast then leave 2.5 meters. She has to hear the whole opener before she has walked past otherwise she is rarely going to come back and chat. At every boot camp I have to tell students to leave more room, it is a common error but it’s easy to correct.
If she is walking fast then the speed in which you open and deliver the opener should also be faster to match her energy levels. If she feels like she is in a rush then only energy of the same or a higher value will cause her to jump out of what she is doing. If the woman is walking slowly, then it is important to “jog” round her and not to “run” round her. If she is slow, the opener should be delivered in a more relaxed tone (casual) which will match the energy of her and her surroundings. The woman should not be shocked or startled; if this is happening then it will be important to check your energy levels.
Image taken from the book “The Pick Up Game by Rob King”
Opening correctly is all about being authentic. You don’t have to smile, so if you don’t feel like smiling… don’t smile! It is better to be true to how you are feeling in that moment. Even if you feel sad it is OK to show this: “Hey, I was having the winter blues today but I saw you and I had to come over and say hi” She will giggle or smile if it is delivered correctly. It is obviously best to feel happy rather than sad, but equally it is better to accept that you feel sad rather than fake happiness.
The woman will be looking at your sub-communications, i.e. your body language, energy, and vocal tonality, to see whether you are genuine or not. The most important thing to her is that you are trustworthy and being genuine. I have picked up many, many times while feeling like a soulless troll. This is because I accepted it and was congruent with my troll-like qualities. It is a lot more attractive to be real in a lower state rather than to be fake. Remember, being fake is the least attractive quality; the girl will view this person as untrustworthy and decide to keep walking.
When going for the kiss close from a street approach, I’ve found that it is best to try this no earlier than the third location you share with her. For months I tried to get the kiss close on the instant date. So I’d try in the first pub or the coffee shop (which is the second location) and I noticed that it is a lot harder to do. I’d often get comments like “you do this to all the girls” or “you are a player”. What I found through trial and error is that by going for the kiss close on the third location completely removes these comments. By you going for the kiss close on the third location will feel to her like “it just happened” and that this is not some kind of game plan. So just like chess you want to be thinking a few moves ahead but also at the same time your focus should be on your current move only. In the video you can see me implement this technique:-
The First location – Meeting her on the street
The Second Location – Going into the coffee shop (even though we didn’t stay, just the fact that we went there still counts as a second location).
The Third Location – The Park, this is where the kiss close happens.
When approaching on the street always have an idea of where the coffee shops are or a nice bar to go to is. Have a game plan in the back of your mind and stick to it.
I have also found that numbers become more solid (she is more likely to meet you again), if you take her to multiple locations. Generally for students, a pretty good interaction with a number close will be about 50% solid. A pretty good interaction with second location and number close will be about 80% solid. The main reasons for this are:
- She will have more memories with you.
- She is investing her time and safety by going with you to a second location.
- She will view you as a real person and someone she could date.
So if she seems like she is not in a rush and could possibly go for a quick coffee or drink with you then this will be a very solid game plan.
It’s been great connecting and exploring the game with you,
Peace n Love,
Robert King (Kingy)
Animes have always been a source of deep, complex characters and and fantastic story lines. Animation has no limitations like real sets in movies, and various magic powers, secret identities and wonderful special effects can be displayed in a series. Of the various heroes, villains and characters in between, here are the few anime characters that I remember the most from my college days. Their behavior patterns, virtues and character flaws serve as a template for how to view the world, and how to bring the best out of yourself.
People often associate “PUA” with magic, trickery, and manipulation. We here at PUA Lingo think that a “PUA” should be a man who strives for greatness and options with women, and is a man of integrity. It will be up to you in the future to make that change. Without further ado, here are my top anime characters that embody strong male qualities:
#12. Edward Elric
Series: Full Metal Alchemist (Brotherhood)
PUA Quality: Mastery of a skill (Alchemy), Brotherly Love
Edward may be too young to get a girlfriend as his first introduction in Full Metal Alchemist was when he was 13. Nonetheless, he maintains a close bond with his childhood sweetheart, Winry. What’s interesting about Edward is that he’s hot-headed, impatient, prone to small man’s syndrome, and yet seriously dedicated to getting his brother’s body back and learning all he can about alchemy. Edward is also not afraid to be funny at times. His determination to master alchemy and help his brother is the underlying theme of the series. A lot can be learned about his journey to learn alchemy and our journey to learn game.
Edward and Winry:
# 11. Roy Mustang
Series: Full Metal Alchemist (Brotherhood)
PUA Quality: Leader of Men, Ambition
Roy Mustang is one of my favorite characters from FMA:(B). Unlike the straightforward and sometimes crass Edward, Roy is cunning, political, and ambitious. Most importantly he understand what it takes to be a tribe leader. His followers are chosen carefully, and remain loyal. Throughout the series, Roy actually sacrifices a lot to help his followers. He understands that true loyalty goes both ways, and even offers to heal one of his officers before he uses the Philosopher’s stone to heal his own eyes.
His friendships throughout the series illustrate a man who will do anything to get ahead, and yet does so with the help and loyalty of his closest friends and followers.
Mustang on his new rules for female officers (involves Mini skirts):
#10. Shishio Makoto
Series: Samurai X (Rurouni Kenshin)
PUA Quality: Ruthless Ambition, still values Love and Principles despite being cold-blooded
How Shishio got Yumi, a high class escort is a mystery at the beginning of the Kyoto arc. However, as the story goes on, one cannot help but admire the man’s determination. She loves him for his mind, not his physical image, of which he is burned and scarred for life. Shishio ranks as one of the greatest villains in anime, and you can’t help but admire and be fascinated by him, despite his ruthlessness.
#9. Son Goku
Series: Dragon Ball, Z, GT
PUA Quality: Selflessness, Love for Friends and Others In Need, Ascension and Constant Learning
Goku married his childhood sweetheart Chi Chi, and together had a huge family. Always one to uphold his own values and defender of his friends, he even turns his enemies against themselves with his sense of justice and charm. He is the inspiration of many animes today and his spirit of being present is amazing. Another Goku-quality is his constant desire to improve and ascend. He ascends a couple of times throughout the manga and anime, always getting joy from fighting and the process itself. It is truly process over outcome. He enjoys the fight, even if he is losing, or if the whole universe is about to be destroyed. That’s what makes Goku a great hero an inspirational man/Saiyan.
Goku demonstrates his progression over the Z series:
Series: Dragon Ball Z, GT
PUA Quality: Ruthless Pride, Acceptance, Never Giving Up
Vegeta may seem like a bit of a dick in the beginning of Dragon Ball Z, however he grows on you as the series continues. Seeking redemption only through being better than Goku, his own sense of the “Saiyan Prince” is both his motivator and the thing that keeps him from true peace and happiness. Vegeta is able to, through many occasions, get over himself and do what is necessary. Towards the end of Dragon Ball GT, he even admits that “Kakarot” is the true warrior that he aspires to be. Vegeta also ends up marrying arguably one of the hotter girls in the series, Bulma.
#7. Vash (Ericks) The Stampede
PUA Quality: Playful Quality, Adventurer, Helping Others
Vash is a complicated character. At first glance, he’s just a wimpy, funny, corny guy around women. On deeper inspection, he is a 100+ year old living organism that powers huge batteries to sustain human life on a foreign planet. Vash is deep. His corny side is simply a shield he uses to see how people react. Much like Sasha Baren Cohen in Borat and Bruno, how people respond to his corny and boy-like image reveals a lot about who they really are.
At the end of the day, Vash is a killing machine that chooses not to kill, and instead changes fate by altering events in favor of the person making the decisions. He’s a man who inspires others and lives by his own code of ethics.
Vash Funny Moments:
#6. Master Roshi
Series: Dragon Ball Z
PUA Quality: Wise Pervert, Always After Young Girls
Master Roshi was Goku’s and Krillin’s first teacher. He’s a major contributor to comic relief in the DBZ series and is actually quite wise, despite his perverted character.
Roshi is a very lecherous pervert, and is constantly reading dirty magazines or women’s racing on TV. Roshi firmly believes that he is the ultimate stud, even though he’s over 1000 years old and his fashion sense is clearly out of style. At the core, Roshi is very wise and kind-hearted most of the time. A man who never forgets the joys of the female is a man who lives a long time.
Master Roshi’s perverted moments:
#5. Spike Speigel
Series: Cowboy Bebop
PUA Quality: Strong Attitude and Body Language, Womanizer but In Truth Looking For Love
A more mature series, Spike is the protagonist who lost true love, and goes on a journey to first forget about it, but secretly finds it again. Spike is carefree, crass, and likes to take risks. “Life is a dream”, is his motto. He has an ongoing attraction with his partner Faye, and his archetype draws common fanfare from anime girls. Spike is also aggressive when he wants something, while taking serious situations with light comedy.
#4. Mido Ban
PUA Quality: Extremely Talented, Ability To Read People
Ban is a strange character. Unruly and often seemingly rude, he actually cares a lot about his friends and companion, particularly Ginji the lightning emperor. Ban is also extremely talented and can read people by their appearance and body language. According to the Getbackers Wiki:
Ban learned how to fight as a child, and he is a genius. Before he was eight he was learning about magic, chemistry, history, and physics; he was self-taught and learnt most of it from books. The Witch Queen told him that, in order to escape his sad destiny, he would have to be smarter and stronger than anyone else. The Witch Queen has also helped Ban realize the truth about the world he lives in, his enemies, and his destiny. Because of this, Ban Midou is very knowledgeable in basically all forms of knowledge as it is hinted within the manga. Ban’s instincts as well as his reasoning ability are that of a Detective & a Battle Strategist. Ban always watches the people around him and can accurately deduce what they are thinking most of the time. As a result he knows what is about to happen and plans accordingly.
#3. Hiko Seijuro
Series: Samurai X (Rurouni Kenshin)
PUA Quality: Physical Looks, Mastery of the Hiten Mitsurugi style
A manly representation of the ultimate samurai, his own artist/creator explains that while Kenshin is a more feminine, complex character, Hiro was his version of the masculine archetype. As such, his chiseled jawline and and muscles were exaggerated in the anime. Hiro, despite his skills, has a bit of a stubborn personality and unlike Kenshin, wishes to stay away from the world instead of sacrificing himself to change it. Nonetheless, where he does make appearances in the anime, girls get starry eyes and guys admire his innate swordsmanship and ability to read his opponents.
Funny scene with the different kinds of love in Samurai X
#2. Gene Starwind
Series: Outlaw Star
PUA Quality: Leader of 3 Hot Women
Gene Starwind was one of the first space pilot leaders in 90s anime. He is an adventurer and he is openly a reckless ladies’ man and a bit of a pervert who shamelessly flirts with almost every woman he meets. On the outside he would rather try to achieve his goals with a minimum of effort, and his reckless behavior often conflicts with his ship’s partner Jim.
Gene’s funny moments:
Gene eventually leads 3 really hot women along his quest and they often flirt with him throughout the series. How he handles these women is also interesting learning for PUAs. Eventually he does find love towards the end of the series. Each girl represents a different archetype, from calm and ruthless, to soft and deep (Melfina), to the fiesty Aisha, the sexy kitten archetype. The series continues explores the relationships between Gene and his whole crew.
A cool episode at the hot springs with the girls:
#1. Keitaro Urashim
Series: Love Hina
PUA Quality: A Dork Looking For Love, Grows To Become The Man Every Girl Wants
Keitarō Urashima fits the ideal PUA to Man story. At 19, he is a loner student trying to get into the University of Tokyo because of a promise he made 15 years ago to his first love. This promise, that if two people who love each other and go to Tokyo University together they will live happily ever after, is what keeps Keitarō focused and determined, even though he can not remember the name or face of the girl with whom he made the promise to. Luckily for him, after failing the entrance exams, his relatives who own Hinata inn make him the manager in charge of all the girls there (lucky bastard).
Over the course of the series, he goes from a complete lovable loser, to a guy who actually learns martial arts and archaeology skills under the wing of Seta, a mentor he admires. As the seasons continue, other girls develop crushes on him. He eventually chooses the love of the girl who he made the promise to, having flirted with and intimately known all the girls at the inn.
Here you go. Let me know if you have more…
Q: You recently did a post called “15 Factors That Determine If A City Is Great For Men” which was amazingly similar to my own method of deciding where to live next. Which American city would you consider to best for a single man? What are your thoughts on San Diego, Miami, and San Francisco?
I’m pretty ignorant when it comes to American cities. I have no motivation to travel through them or explore, but if I had to pick a city to stay forever it would probably be Miami or New York City. They seem to have the hottest girls on the East Coast.
Q: What your honest thoughts about the current American and worldwide feminist movement?
All movements hit a peak and I think this is happening with feminism. Their influence will start to degrade as more men take the “red pill” and push back on their views. What I’m more concerned about is obesity and the effects of technology in making girls more unattractive and flakey.
Q: Are you traveling most of the year? Which countries you find the most enjoyable in terms of beautiful women? In terms of getting laid the easiest?
I combine travel with staying in a city for 1-3 months at a time. My favorite countries were Estonia, Lithuania, Poland, Croatia, Colombia, and Brazil. These are all countries that I’d return to because the women were pretty and feminine. The easiest countries to get laid in is Iceland, Norway, and Finland. The girls drink a lot and don’t mind taking a random man home.
Q: How do you deal with haters regarding your “stereotype” opinions of certain women of regions or countries you’ve been in?
I love haters because they do a great job of spreading my work on Twitter, Facebook, and forums. It’s free marketing for me.
Q: What’s your score? Do you even keep count anymore?
Hold on let me check my spreadsheet and get back to you. :)
Q: What are some tips for guys to travel light and efficiently?
I don’t travel light and efficiently. I travel with multiple pairs of shoes, jeans, and blazers. My main luggage is so big that I often have had to pay overweight charges. Traveling light and efficiently is great if you want to backpack in hostels. But if you want to look good and meet girls, why not look your best?
Q: How you make friends in a new country knowing nobody? Do you just game girls or do you make guy friends? How you deal with the loneliness and inevitably may creep in after weeks of traveling alone?
My problem is that traveling has made it very difficult to make guy friends. Usually I just go out alone and pickup, but after a couple years this does get boring and you wish you had a good wingman with you. I think guys won’t have this problem if they pick one city and stay a while to build a social circle, but if they hop around like I have, they have to accept that they will be lonely and maybe even lose some friends.
Q: Describe your type of game and how you might do a 1 night pull
These days I’m lazy so I put most of my game work into logistics. I get a nice apartment near the center, with a goal to be within 5 minutes walking distance from the best club. There I approach girls who are alone or separated from their friends. I move aggressively with touching and kissing to screen out girls who don’t want to have sex the same night. Sometimes it feels like playing the lottery. I try my best not to go on dates.
Q: What are you working on now? Where can guys find more about your book and your current work?
I’m working on a short memoir about my one month return in America. I also started a new site called Return Of Kings (http://www.returnofkings.com). Guys can always check out my blog at http://www.rooshv.com to check out my main game writing and books.
Q: Do you offer private coaching, and how does that work?
I used to when I was in Washington DC because I had a lot of venues where I could set up a nice program, almost like an assembly line. But it was a lot exhausting work and for me it’s more efficient to write books that could reach thousands than workshops that only reach one or two guys at a time.
Quick Definition: Characters and celebrities who are not officially in the seduction community and yet share the PUA moniker because of the similarity and effectiveness of their own seduction techniques.
- Tucker Max – for his outrageous and asshole ways with women, chronicles on his blog
- Russell Brand – a gifted rockstar/comedian, and formerly married to Katy Perry
- George Clooney – GQ and class all the way, a true ladies man
- Seth Green – a friend of Neil Strauss, and an actor who gets girls despite his height, a common friend of the PUA community
- David Spade – another short actor who pulls mad tail, both David and Seth have been featured as seducers on the HBO show Entourage
- Cast of Entourage – a male fantasy of Hollywood, women, and the life that entails
- Hank Moody – fictional, from Californication, the manwhore writer who charms his way out of trouble
Example of Hank Moody in action
Example of Russell Brand on The View, seducing the women
Example of the guys rating girls on Entourage
n/a – giving respect
In this episode we talk about:
- The Casanova Crew and who they are
- Girls in Southern California and if they are hot
- Online Dating secrets
- Race issues in online Dating
- Getting the number from messages, and pushing for the date
- How to avoid fat girls who post old pictures
- Messages to send to get the best responses
I finally got an close up, intimate interview with Richard La Ruina of PUA Training, AKA Gambler in the game. I caught him late at night due to the time difference so you will get to see a more candid side of the dating coach. We talk about life and how to get the girls you really want. You will also learn in this interview:
- How to identify the best bars to pick up at…
- How to build a strong relationship to multiple hot girls and have them in your social circle…
- Where in the world the hottest girls are, with natural beauty, down to earth personality and easy going relationships…
- How to deal with bitches…
- How to best learn game as a) beginner b) intermediate c) advanced pick up artist…
- How deal with flakes or prevent flakes in the first place…
Gambler’s products have helped me tremendously when I was learning game, ever before we started PUA Lingo. You can learn more about his Stealth Attraction product and PUA University on our site. You can add him on Facebook here.
This was the girl in the video I was referring to in my interview:
Interview with Gambler Part 1
Interview with Gambler Part 2
Interview with Gambler Part 3
Interview with Gambler Part 4
Interview with Gambler Part 5