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  • How to use PUA lingo in a constructive way

    By on February 2, 2009

    There have been many debates in the community (and outside) about the legitimate use of community “lingo”. We think this is a fair discussion to have. Pros and cons apply to both sides. The Naturals say that community terminology makes us look weird, nerdy and contrived. Structured Game PUAs say that terminology gives us structure, scientific methods of describing things, and clarity. Instead of taking either side, below is the progression of an average PUA and how his use of the lingo evolves at each stage of the game:

    Stage 1: Newbie

    New guy becomes aware of the community. He/she is fascinated, and starts to read about cool terms like PUA and Negs from books like The Game. Attention, interest and curiosity takes hold. At this stage, learning the lingo is like learning to ride a bike – it is necessary to understand the concepts behind the terms in order to internalize what being a PUA means. It is also extremely fun to do.

    Stage 2: Advanced Newbie

    The PUA starts to go on a reading binge, perhaps coupled with some field experience. Now terminology is used as a pride symbol, to show off how much he has learned. He is excited at discussing new and cool PUA definitions with his PU buddies, either on online forums or with those that he has met in person.

    Stage 3: Intermediate PUA

    The intermediate PUA has internalized some of the lingo, and may even catch himself using terms like “social proof” with non PUAs like his office workers. Some of these terms are now part of his identity and his understanding of the world. Intermediate PUAs don’t use lingo as much, but they have become more adaptable to use lots of lingo with community guys, and less or no lingo with naturals or regular AFCs.

    Stage 4: Intermediate / Advanced Artist


    The advanced PUA / mPUA is skilled in community-speak and also can break down community concepts in a natural, “dating-advice” sort of way. Think David Wygant or Matador when talking to the press. The lingo and concepts are internalized, and only used when it serves the purpose of expanding one’s mind quickly by the usage of such a meaning and description of the word. PUA Lingo is not used to show off, or DHV. (Intended) Rather, the master is so skilled that he will use either PUA lingo or natural relationship speech to illustrate his point, when necessary.

    We have built this site with the intention of the master PUA usage – that is, a clear, concise definitive answer to a definition, and the natural usage of it from both a community and natural perspective. At the end of the day, always remember who you are talking to (your audience), and how you can connect with them on a personal level.

    One’s mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions

    Oliver Wendell Holmes

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    • Hey Alphawolf,

      I like your site and definitions. It’s always good to find some postive re-enforcement as well as to check up on the latest. Look forward to hearing more from you.


    • Hey Hybrid,

      Thanks man! We appreciate it. More to come. Stage 1 is just the well known definitions.


    • High-Point

      Wats up guys. Im new to the community so i would like some extra help here…Im experienced with girls but usually getting them by telling jokes or making a good first impression with my looks. I am pretty confident and i think it is going to help me in the long run of becoming a PUA. Besides field work, if any of you guys know some tips for me u send me an e-mail at [EDITED]. Now, i dont really know how to make my name known in the community so any help would be appreciated. Yours truly, High-Point

    • Hi High-Point,

      I think you may be missing the point here. First, prioritize your goals. Getting your name known in the community is not synonymous with having game. It just means you have some game and good PR/marketing. Read the foundational material post on the home page to get more info on solid works that helped many PUAs build a foundation. Last and not least, use this site as a resource, but do your own research and pick your own poison/meat. There’s no one right answer in the journey of game.

    • I have definitely recognized all of these stages in my own game. I am someone who would argue for and against lingo. In the learning stages it makes complete sense to have words to describe certain things simply for efficiency when talking about something. The problem is when people get so immersed in the lingo that it starts to become who they are, an unhealthy balance.

      Lately I have been spending time to really break things down to a level that everyone can understand and have gotten more away from it.

    • johnlongslinger

      Hello. John here. I am new to the community. First of all, I want to thank those that have put this together. It is a great place to learn and get more information. I just wanted to make an introductory post to introduce myself. Thanks for the help.

    • Thanks John. Welcome to the community! You will see ads here —> and below to support running this site. Casual and I have tried very hard to offer unbiased material because we went through some tough learning curves ourselves. Please use PUA Lingo as needed in your path to learning game.

    • karl d slayer

      the site is a big help on my game here in the philippines… now im going to have hb12’s hahaha

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